Tuesday, November 07, 2006

The Existentialist Age Two

People talk about two year olds and the way they over use the question "Why?" but I never really understood how tough it would get.

"Mommy, why is that the sky?"
[What are my choices here? Because it's blue? Because it's above us? What? Gah!]

"Why is this a car?"
[Um. It has an engine? Because it's not a pizza? What is the right answer? Gah!]

"Why is that a dog?"
[Because he wasn't kind to others in a past life? Because...Gah!]

I spend hours stumped by The Mayor.

I've consulted the blowhards experts that pretend to know about cognitive development or whatever.

They suggest that The Mayor doesn't really care about the answers, but that the endless
WHY questions are simply about him practicing his conversational skills.

That could be right.

I'm here to testify that he needs some serious practice.

Case in point:

The Mayor: "Daddy, what did you say to me?

K: "I didn't say anything, Mayor."

The Mayor: "Oh. Why?"


p.s. The Mayor has pneumonia. PNEUMONIA!!


Sarah said...

what helps me with the endless why is to think of it as "could you please give more information about that?" then you can answer so that it's not a "because..."

jen said...

but WHY does the Mayor have pneumonia?

seriously, woman..I feel you. hope he is better very soon.

Sayre said...

Oh, poor baby. Both of you.

Iris/Rissy said...

They talk about Generation X.....but in my vast experience with 2 year olds (I have had 4 of them), they are definitely Generation Why. Now in my home, we go to church on a regular basis.....well, every Christmas is pretty regular, isn't it? But my blanket answer to a lot of the "why" questions has always been, "because God made it that way". It tends to work, for a vast majority of the questions. Of course, with the older kids, the answers have to be more unique. When my daughter, almost 8, used to ask me "Why do you always have to go to work?" My answer was, "If I didn't go to work, we would have to live in a cardboard box" (I am a single mom of 4 kids). So when her teacher then passed judgement on me saying I worked too much and didn't spend enough time helping the kids with homework, etc, she told her teacher, "If my mom didn't work, we would have to live in a cardboard box, and eat bugs"....she does like to embelish a story.

S. said...

When you find the answers, care to pass them on? LOL

Hope everyone gets better soon!

Christina_the_wench said...

Poor little dude. We could share an inhaler. I sure need one today.

Get better, Mayor.

Mamma said...

Poor Mayor!! Will the Rooster be assuming his duties while he's recuperating?

Get better soon!

Plain Jane Mom said...

The whole 'Why' thing drives me nuts. We didn't have any of it here until a few months ago, and now ALL THREE are doing it. Conspiracy? You bet'cha.

Sorry to hear about the pneumonia. It is that time of year for sure. Hope TM gets better ASAP.

Megan said...

I think that's bullshit about the "practicing conversation skills". I'm sure The Mayor is brilliant enough to know what drives you batty, and has a big dose of curiosity to boot (which, in my mind is a sign of extreme intelligence!!)
Sorry to hear about the Pneumonia.. did you have to go for x-rays? or was it diagnosed another way?

Waya said...

Well, I have my own "expert" advice on this "why" phrase too...I would turn it around and ask them "why" and see what they say. Hee hee.

Poor The Mayor, I hope he'll feel better!

Mandy said...

I never got the "whys" with either of my girls, but I do get the "NO!" from my 3 yr old a lot. Even when I know it's something I know she'll want. "Do you want an ice cream?" "NO!, (let's it sink in) I mean YES!"
Hope he's well soon! PS boots are one size fits all, you're welcome to borrow them : )

mad muthas said...

before my daughter knew the word 'why' she used to say 'what because'. nifty, eh?

poor little mayor - give him a big hug from all of us. (and keep us posted)


cmhl said...

oh noooo, I hope he feels better!!!!

my daughter had a breakdown (throwing herself to the floor weeping) because her brother told her that Jesus is a boy. in her world, that is so totally NOT fair!!!

Blonde Vigilante said...

The Mayor is adorable and I'd vote for him anyday.

Hope he gets better soon.

slackermommy said...

Oh yes those damn "why" questions. I just got one out of that stage and now the next one has started. Some days I just have to tell them that mommy's ears need a rest. Hope The Mayor has a quick recovery. Poor little guy.

Anonymous said...

Poor little guy. I hope he feels better soon!

We went through the why phase a little later-but when I ran out of answers, I used to like to say "I don't know. Why do you think x, y, or z?". It made for some interesting conversations.

Starrlight said...

Eek, pneumonia is so not fun. It just drags on forever. Hope the little guy is better soon. And that you get a break too!

Domestic Goddess said...

and he is still asking that many questions?

Stephanie said...

Hmm... maybe I should be more grateful that my son isn't talking yet....

Went through lots of questions with my daughter. Still do, actually. She's 4 and has plenty on her mind. The curiosity is such a delight when it hasn't exhausted you.

Lotta said...

Pnemonia! Gahhhhh!!!

Momish said...

Oh, I hope he feels better soon. Then he can torture you with more why questions! Yeah!

kim said...

awww pnemonia bites :(
but on the bright side ...you can understand the Mayor. BT is still speaking a version of english that unfortunately the only words im sure of are shit, pizza, fries and cars *sigh*

domestic_slackstress said...

My 3-year-old asked me the other day, "Mommy, what happens when you get to the edge of the world? Do you fall off?" That was tough to field.

Izzy said...

Pneumonia? Awwww. Hope he's better soon.

As for the neverending, unanswerable questions, if I don't know I just say "Gosh honey, I really don't know. Ask Daddy when he gets home"

Hee hee :)

Girl In Her Underwear said...

Oh no! Pneumonia! I'll stop griping over here now! Poor little Mayor!

And just so that you know, I always have to remind myself that the Mayor is only 2!!!! I compare him to my twins and think I'm raising idiots! They've never asked me why OR asked to put anything up my butt. I don't even think they've ever seen a tampon, so tomorrow I plan on dumping a box out on the floor for them to explore. Then I plan on making them dunk them in the tub, etc. so they can be caught up developmentally with the Mayor. :D

I hope he feels better soon!

Tabba said...

I hope your little Mayor is feeling better.
My trickity-trick with the wonderful 'why' question is to turn the question around on them. For example:

"Mommy, why is the sky blue?"

"I don't know, Connor. Why is the sky blue??"

You will inevitably get an answer out of them & then a subsequent 'discussion', which I feel is better than trying to come up with an answer on the spot.

Kevin Charnas said...

PNEUMONIA??? That poor little guy...I'm sending good health his way RIGHT NOW!!!!