Friday, July 13, 2007

Morning Tides

This morning both The Mayor and The Rooster were on the bed in our room while K and I tried to get everyone dressed, ready and out the door.

Rooster was ripping pages out of library books and screaming.

The Mayor was standing dangerously close to the edge of the bed screaming because his shirt was tangled up with his arms and head.

Fresh from the shower, K stood in nothing but his underwear.

I had at least managed to pull on a skirt and a shirt, though they were so wrinkled that they looked like I found them in the hamper.

The noise and chaos levels rose and fell in violent waves.

K and I looked at each other.

We stepped together and embraced.

I put my head on his shoulder.

We were still for a moment, enveloped in a protective shield of stillness and peace.


"You're my one," he said.

"I love you every day," I said.


The powerful current of morning on the angry toddler seas pulled us apart, but we returned to battling the rising waves buoyed up.

80 comments:

Catizhere said...

Ahhh, the Sanity Buoy in a Perfect Storm of Angry Toddler Chaos.
Beautiful.

Liam's Mom - Gina said...

Sometimes that all you can do... glad you have each other.

Twisted Cinderella said...

what a nice moment.

tulipmom said...

Only you could capture that moment so well.

Patience said...

The wonderful little angelic gifts from God!! Isn't it wonderful that you have each other as a united front??

SciFi Dad said...

one of your best posts. seriously.

Marmite Breath said...

Ahhh, mawwiage.

Omaha Mama said...

That is so cool. Hubs and I usually end up shouting at each other, over the waves of toddler screaming. About wrinkles, laundry, messes, screaming. You name it. So next time, maybe I'll try this approach.

Mimi said...

Awwww. That's kinda what our mornings are like around here. Except this morning I was singing the banana song to Munchkin when Pynchon suddenly *streaked* (and yeah, I mean naked) from the upstairs bathroom, through the kitchen, and into the basement, where all his unders were in the dryer.

Munchkin and I just sorta looked at each other.

I missed a good makeout moment there, I think ;-)

Em said...

Some of the best bonding moments come in the middle of all hell breaking loose.

Nikki said...

You are so nice.

I would have kicked Charles in the ding-ding.

mcewen said...

Add a couple more kids and we're on the same page [even if it is ripped out of a library book.]
The only addition for us, is that whenever we embrace, one of them insists on inserting himself between us. If he misses that moment, he makes us repeat the embrace - works for me!
Have a spiffing day.
Cheers

Lisa Milton said...

At the risk of sounding like a total and complete suck up, I love coming here every day.

You remind me to keep my head on and to love this life I have. It's got a lot of joy too.

Hope the toddlers simmer down and you all have a great weekend.

~JJ! said...

Awesome.

We need to be able to do that in our house...doesn't happen.

And we only have one.

Gingers Mom said...

That is really sweet. I have been there honey. I have been there.

liv said...

Y'all are so precious. Here, I just pull the cover over my head.

Bon said...

sniff.

that was lovely...and very much like my morning, though we battled diarrhea rather than toddler rage.

but in the midst of it, that hug, that perfect stillness, where you would not want to be in any other place or life than that exact moment.

lucky, we are, friend.

Jim said...

Cool. Thanks for sharing!

The Expatriate Chef said...

Must be wonderful to have that! Congrats.

QT said...

Mmmmm - that is too sweet! I am so glad you two have each other. Remind me if I have kids to space them far enough apart so I can get a break from the angry toddler phase - even if just for a little while.

Queen Heather said...

you two are so sweet.

Crunchy Carpets said...

I gotta tell you, some of my fave moments with my dh is when we hide in the bedroom and just LISTEN to the kids yelling and trying to find us.

It is our moment together..solidarity against the mob

slouching mom said...

Awwww.

Sniffle.

Above Average Joe said...

Battle on, fellow parents of 2. Battle on!!

Cathy said...

Sounds much better than our method, which involves me cowering under the ironing board, rocking and muttering, while Hubs, wearing only his BVDs, dances wildly around our bedroom — a la The Wiggles — in an effort to distract the Wee Ones.

WILLIAM said...

You got mad word skills.

NoMommy said...

I wish that we could think to do something sweet like that. During a recent toddler moment I smiled at DH and asked if he happened to have any chloroform.

CamiKaos said...

that is perfectly beautiful.

Diane said...

Story of my life, sister!

Paige said...

And the house of Joy lives to fight another day.

Fight on, my sister.

Mel said...

(((Jessica)))
I love you guys. That's beautiful.

JayJenny said...

Aww, that's just so sweet!

Cece said...

That's sweet. When you were done did you put the SMACK DOWN on those two?! lol Have a nice weekend!

Jennifer aka Binky Bitch said...

As a mom of 2 so close together also, thanks for the reminder that I should go hug my husband.

Great post!

mimikatemom said...

You are so blessed. That balance. But you already know that.

Eventually, they stop screaming. And when their sweet breath moves over your skin when you watch them sleep, you forget.

BlondeMomBlog (Jamie) said...

I feel like that a lot!

Except with more dog hair. ;)

JamesMommy said...

I loved reading this! It's what it's all about, huh? Happy weekend to the Joy family.

Jenn said...

Sigh.

Can I borrow him?

Just for a day?

Jenifer said...

Sweet. In my house it have ended with a child yelling, "Daddy is hugging Mommy, don't kiss her!!" or something else poetic like that.

andi said...

Aw. Gotta love those moments.

Hol&J said...

Simply beautiful.

ewe are here said...

Moments like that are what get us through the toddler-chaos. In spite of the fact that our toddler immediately starts yelling 'noooooo!' and wants us to stop hugging right now!

Sigh

Lisa Fine/Kelly Kelly said...

that is true love.

Lisa

Kyla said...

You too are so sweet. We have those moments, too.

flutter said...

oh Jess...This is magic

Mrs. Chicken said...

we had a moment like that last night, too.

lovely, jess.

David said...

You get to see each other in the morning. Hm, that would be nice. At least these days I have a chance, instead of the days when I left for work at 3:30 am.

meno said...

You'll be fine when the kids leave the house fro college or wherever. That's importnat.

Anonymous said...

that is beautiful

Aliki2006 said...

I think this is a good lesson for me, too. Sometimes my husbandand I have trouble finding each other amid the chaos--thanks for the reminder.

Ally said...

Aww, that was nice.

Just for the record, yesterday to work (where I went to court, no less) I DID pull my clothes from the hamper. Our laundry fairy has really been slacking lately. I think I'm going to fire her.

NotSoSage said...

Exactly.

urban-urchin said...

so sweet.

carrie said...

Thank god you have each other.

Reminds me of those moments in the car, where the kids have lost their collective mind, and we just look at each other and shake our heads.

The love. It's a good thing.

Carrie

notfearingchange said...

I have no toddlers and yet i managed to go to work in a wrinkled shirt and trousers today ...

See really toddlers are an excuse...we all do it toddlers or not! ;-P

Miscellaneous-Mum said...

I live for those moments.

mamatulip said...

See, now I would have looked at Dave and probably done something like punch him. LOL. You're a much gentler person than I.

Nancy said...

Gah. This post gave me goosebumps.

Lovely, lovely, and so real.

wordgirl said...

I can relate...totally. You'll still need that sanity buoy when they're teenagers. Trust me on this one.

Redsy said...

so romantic!!

deb said...

You are a woman blessed Jess.

Biddy said...

i want one!!! a sweet husband, not a screaming toddler....

amusing said...

Oh, see. That was my dream, right there, that moment of connection. Hope lives on.

Megan said...

It's been an age since I've been able to come by to the 'joys and check you out, but I'll try and come back sooner than later as your eloquence in the face of chaos always inspires me!
On another note: Cade is super into potty training and I'm wondering if you have a 'stand alone' potty for Rooster or just the attachable seat?
Also, just to brag about how brill my boy is, I was reading the post about Nicolette's fire trucks and clear as day, Cade says "mouse" and points to the computer screen. I'm like, "where and when did you learn the word mouse?!?!?" Amazing!

Ophelia Rising said...

So sweet and poignant. I hope that we (my husband and I) can try this, rather than rant and rave at one another during these times of tribulation.

painted maypole said...

lovely

Terri@SteelMagnolia said...

Aww.

Elizabeth said...

Okay, at the risk of sounding like a total suck-up, that was beautifully written. The next time the chaos is swirling and the stress level is rising, I'm going to try just hugging my husband-what a concept :)

aimee / greeblemonkey said...

sniff sniff you guys rock.

Fairly Odd Mother said...

Gosh, that is really sweet.

Kelly said...

You got it. Sometimes that's all we're able to do, within our own small-children-chaos. We just look at each other and roll our eyes, and then embrace and squeeze each other's asses. It works!

EE said...

Awwww! When my husband and I hug in front of the kids, we always hear a chorus of "GROSS"!!!

WhyMommy said...

Oh, J ... what a nice moment. Hope it got you through the chaos that was (undoubtedly) to come!

Stepping Over the Junk said...

this is the problem when you're a single mother, like myself. I have no one to hold onto when things get crazy like that and my kids start running out in the street naked.

PunditMom said...

Excellent moment. Make sure to save that one in the memory bank.

crazymumma said...

amazing the power of the small people...

Lotta said...

That is lovely, you described that moment so well.

Kevin Charnas said...

Beautiful...

And thank goodness that "Dana" wasn't angry, 'cause that would've just added a whole other aspect.

Damselfly said...

I need a lesson in this.

Moobs said...

Dammit! Now you have made me cry on my business tie.