Thursday, September 27, 2007

Steadfast

The Mayor regularly demonstrates a strong preference for K and routinely behaves more rudely towards me.

I know he's just a little guy but sometimes it hurts my feelings.

When he throws me a bone and shows me a little love it means a lot to me because these demonstrations can be few and far between.

During our family rush hour this morning he asked to sit on my lap.

We were running late (as usual) but I couldn't resist indulging him. He hardly ever seeks physical attention from me and I am always desperate for a Mayor cuddle.

He let me hold him and then shower his head with kisses over and over again -- a rare treat for me.

Afterwards we left to drop K at the commuter train and the kids at daycare.

The Mayor, The Rooster and I share goodbye kisses and hugs at the glass door of the daycare center every day before I leave.

When I go, The Mayor and The Rooster stand with their noses pressed to the window waving and blowing kisses and I do the same while walking to the car.

Rooster generally loses interest in me after a fraction of a nano second and runs off to play with her friends, but The Mayor is faithful.

As long as he can see me he stays at the window waving and, as long as I can see him waving, I wave back.

The Mayor doesn't leave the window or stop waving at me until the car disappears beneath the rise of the hill in front of the center.

Every morning he chooses to witness his last possible glimpse of me.

Though he doesn't express his feelings about me in the ways I expect him to,
I suppose he tells me just the same.



The Mayoral Glow


63 comments:

Circus Kelli said...

That's so cool.

This morning, I did the backwards-walking-wave-and-blow-kisses thing while Buddy waved and blew kisses and made faces and acted like a goon. He too waves and waves until he can't see me anymore.

3carnations said...

That's sweet. I tend to be the one my son comes to for cuddles, while my husband is the one he comes to for some rowdy play. Every morning when I drop my son off at daycare, we sit together while he eats a snack, we play together briefly, and then he walks me to the door and closes it behind me. There is a small window up high in the door. I always look. Sometimes he is walking away, and sometimes he is looking to blow me one last kiss before I leave.

Robin said...

So sweet!

Assertagirl said...

What a nice way to get your day started. This reminds me of being a little girl, because I would stand on my bed in the morning to look out the window and watch my dad's car head up the road on his way to work. I'd watch until I couldn't see the car anymore.

Shannon said...

You're a good mom. Rather than imposing your own ideas on how he should express his love, you let him express it in his own way.

Family Adventure said...

He's adorable. The kids are so different in how they show they care. And you know what they say about treating the ones you love the worst. You must be high on The Mayor's list :)
- Heidi

Diane said...

Awww! He watches you as you leave! What a sweetie! You're right - he's just showing you in a different way. It's nice, though, that he lets you get in an occasional mommy mush session. Gotta have those too, huh?

Amy said...

That is so adorable! You are right to take every hug and plant every kiss they'll allow! My poor Honey Bear gets the overflow from what Shark Boy stiff-arms these days. But my Shark still wants me when he's hurt and still looks for me first thing every morning for his hug and kiss.

MamaLee said...

He IS showing you his love. And you got it right - every kid shows it in different ways.

Hopefully he won't show it by something GROSS, like... oh, never mind. I was gonna talk about poop again.

And when I drop my kids off at school and they get in their lines, they always turn back and blow me kisses. Melts my heart every time.

I hope they do that for a LONG time.

maddy said...

Works for me.
Cheers

Rebekah said...

Many smiles! Our babies are too precious! I love your blog!

~JJ! said...

And, we'll always take it, won't we?

Hope you get to give him some more hugs later!

furiousBall said...

Oww, this one stung me right in the ole' ticker today. My kids live 800 miles away from me and I miss seeing my little girl waving goodbye at the front door every morning. Riding bikes with my son for camp and him burying his head in my chest while the reality of the divorce settled in on his little 6 year old heart.

Oww.

It's good to read this though, loving families do exist, despite what the Easter Bunny tells me.

Not the Queen said...

Very sweet!

Catizhere said...

Some days I wish they would like Daddy better.

Maybe the laundry would get done, the dishes would be finished BEFORE 10 pm, and the bathroom would be cleaner.

Scarlett Wanna Be said...

Here is a confession from someone who is too terrified and too concerned with her emotional baggage to have kids: Sometimes, when I read your blog, it makes me think of reasons why I should suck it up and be a mom. Today's reason was: for the extra long waves good-bye.

Loralee Choate said...

That squeezes my heart in a good way (Which is always a nice change!)

Talk about a steadfast little guy. Adorable.

Anonymous said...

that is just the sweetest thing...hang on to this stuff as long as you can...he is so beautiful...lucky you...you are blessed


mauniejames3

Tabba said...

he sure does.

his heart is yours, Mama.

Mrs. Chicky said...

He loves his Mama, yes he does.

Bob said...

for years our kids would argue about who got to sit behind their mom in the car. I mean, it's stupid and I didn't pay hardly attention to it except to (sometimes loudly) request they figure it out - but deep down I had a little bit of hurt feelings. why didn't they fight to sit behind me? I know they love me as much as their mom, but still. just that little bit, I wondered.

each child brings something different to the family, but they all bring love - in equal amounts for all.

but its really great when they surprise you by showing it!

Mrs. Chicken said...

The Mayor reminds me a lot of Mr. Chicken.

I love this post, and I know your boy loves you. How could he not?

kittenpie said...

pumpkinpie is totally a daddy girl, too. She used to tell me, "I don't love you, mommy, I only love daddy." But now she concedes, "I love you a bit, mommy. But I love daddy SO much." I ignore the "bit" qualifier.

*~*Cece*~* said...

I just want to kiss his face!

zellmer said...

I want to smooch him, too, when Cece finishes with him.

Mamma said...

That would make it so hard for me to leave.

Lori at Spinning Yellow said...

Ditto what Shannon said.

And, damn, your kids are photogenic! Always adorable.

PunditMom said...

It's hard to manage the expectations we have about whether and how our children are showing us their love. I know I'm supposed to be "the grown-up" and not be offended or worried if PunditGirl won't give me a hug or a kiss, or I get the pretend ones when her dad gets the real ones, but it does. Maybe in my 'next life' I won't let the baggage from my own childhood color my parenting.

T. said...

Oh - boys do love their Mamas - even if their Dads win out in the cool category. I steal head kisses any chance I get, and mine are also few and far between.

(And you made me cry....)

Mimi aka pz5wjj said...

What a cutie! You brought back memories of when Josh was in day care -- he'd stand at the window and "sign" "I Love You" to me through the window!

So sweet!

slouching mom said...

He is adorable, he really is.

DaddyP said...

Oh dear, you're one of these people who don't respond to comments.
Actually, I don't blame you - there are so many - interesting. I'm going to have to have a little think.


OK, I've thunk now - thank you.

CamiKaos said...

I wasn't expecting to cry at the end of this one...

Emily said...

This is so precious!
My 10 year old rolls her eyes at me if I say, "Love you sweetie" too loudly as she gets out of the car in the morning. :) Enjoy it while it lasts!

Worker Mommy said...

Awwww ! My son went through something similar where he only wanted his daddy to do certain things for him. Now he's backing to diggin mommy equally :)

Marmite Breath said...

I love it! All any parent wants is the love of her child--and we'll take it however it comes, right?

Jennifer aka Binky Bitch said...

That boy loves his Mama! Thanks for sharing this story!

Emery Jo said...

I love how you called him 'faithful'. What a precious guy.

Kyla said...

This was so sweet.

ewe are here said...

So very sweet. And he's just lovely.


I love it when my MF wants a mommy cuddle, because I, too, am often not the favorite when daddy's around.

Craze said...

Aww... my little guy did the same thing. Sometimes he had to be pryed off my leg. It's common you know for boys to be closer to their mamas and for girls to be closer to their daddys.

painted maypole said...

you seem to have taught him well about the big goofy goodbye wave. :)

Anonymous said...

You got me with this one. "Though he doesn't express his feelings about me in the ways I expect him to, I suppose he tells me just the same."

So true. Lovely post J.

urban urchin

Lawyer Mama said...

Ah, that is so sweet. Hollis is very similar to the Mayor. They do tell us they love us in so many different ways, don't they?

liv said...

Sister, you got it made in the shade. I've seen yer young'uns up close and they're good people. Love that Mayor.

Omaha Mama said...

Sweet love.

Heidi Hyde said...

Lovely. I'm just beginning to feel the rebuff from my onion- yesterday he went so far as to ignore me for a while when I got home. As if to say, "this is what you get."

-HH

carrie said...

Everyone has their own way of showing their love, don't they?

I bet that image stays with you all day . . .

Serina Hope said...

That is very sweet. He sounds a whole lot like Super Z. I have to take the love where I can get it, oh, but how sweet it is when I do get it.

flutter said...

OOF.I had something to say then I saw his face and I can't think straight.

KC said...

The long waves goodbye are the best. I'm a total sponge for any affection bone thrown my way too. The Mayor so loves you.

notfearingchange said...

OTJ..everytime i read your blog I am re-affirmed of my desire to have children. Thank you.

Jenifer said...

What a sweet boy, he talks in other ways it seems.

Audubon Ron said...

Wait, there’s more. When I got old enough to drive, my mother would call me in her sweet southern way and insist I take her to lunch. There she taught me how to treat a woman well. It pays big dividends for a guy, get my meaning? If my mother were still alive, I’d call her to this day and say, “Hey, Mama, let’s do lunch.” Ladies, raise up your boys well. They’ll be happier in the long run. Trust me on this one. Maybe, just maybe, he’ll even find a daughter-in-law you’ll actually like.

Rockel said...

He looks JUST like his dad!

DrowseyMonkey said...

Such a sweet story. He really does look like his dad!

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Queeny said...

Although they sometimes give more props to their dad, the morning routine I share with my two little ones is just between us. We kiss, hug then high-five, in that order.

Queen of Shake-Shake said...

Awww, that is so sweet and wonderful!

Boys are so great!

Redsy (formerly CrankMama) said...

Those noses pressed against windows are what break my heart...

and yes, they both love you more than you'll ever fully realize

little buggers.

imhelendt said...

The way my oldest explained it to me is this: Mom, I see you all the time. BUT DADDY! We don't get to see him as much. It's not that I don't like you, but you're always THERE, Daddy's not.

This was especially evident when I had to leave town a couple of years ago for a few days to help my SIL in the midst of a nasty divorce. When I got back, Holy COW! Those kids were stuck to me like glue. lol. But he's right, otherwise, I'm ALWAYS there.

Redneck Mommy said...

Gorgeous kiddie you have there.

Not that I'm surprised or anything....After all, you're kinda cute too. Don't let that go to your head.

Damselfly said...

That looks like a face who loves his mama!

mothergoosemouse said...

I'm trying to keep the same thoughts in mind while I wait for CJ to say those three little words.