Yesterday at lunch time I called my friend Elke to check on the status of her son's sprained ankle and to
beg her to adopt The Mayor see if she wanted to have lunch.
She couldn't meet, but did talk with me about
my poor mothering skills The Mayor and his tantrums.
Elke suggested that K and I separate The Mayor's time out punishments (given when rules are broken) from the breaks he might need for calming down.
Time outs then become specifically punitive, and "breaks" become something esle... something more positive... taking time for oneself to find composure.
Elke suggested we use The Mayor's tantrums as a skill building opportunity.
She thought maybe we could help him learn what he thinks works the best for getting himself under control when he is overly upset like holding his blankie, being held or having time alone with one of us.
Whatever it is, he might begin to develop his own arsenal of tools for self-control.
Her ideas made me think.
[Hmmm. Skill building...teambuilding. Does this endeavor come with a sexy shirt?]
Elke also talked about how much success she has had with her own son using a star chart to reward good behavior.
Admittedly, I know nothing about star chartism, but I've started working on my design...
[Totally going to try that...]