Wednesday, February 13, 2008

Another Kind of Knitting

“This is an emergency,” she said. “You have to come right now.”

I ran to my car and backed down the driveway but I live on a busy street and the traffic was relentless.

Panic rose in my chest and I screamed at my car windows.

When I finally reached the school, The Mayor was sitting in his teachers lap sobbing.

“He was running on the playground,” she told me. “He fell and his friend fell on top of him. His arm is hurt, but I can’t see it through his shirt and he won’t let anyone touch it.”

My panic, visibly increasing, led another teacher to take me by the arm and, in her most serious and stern voice, say,

“You need to stay calm.”

I took a deep breath and righted myself.

The teachers helped me get The Mayor into the car and I headed for the emergency room.

Every time the car went over a bump or I slowed down for a traffic light he wailed in agony.

“Please, Mama! Please make it stop hurting!”

I had to self-park in the ER parking deck (WTF?!!) and carry him to the elevator. He sobbed and sobbed.

Every movement I made hurt him.


Why hadn’t I asked the school to call an ambulance?

When I reached the check in desk with my arms full the attendant said,

“Sign in, please.”


“Wait here please.”

Finally, FINALLY, they took him to triage and gave him some mild pain medication and eventually morphine.

The x-rays almost made me throw up.

The bone in his upper arm was snapped clean apart just above his elbow.

“He’ll need surgery,” they said.

Hours later, The Mayor was pieced back together with two steel pins and a cast from his shoulder to his swollen fingertips.

Once we had The Mayor home and settled K and I held each other in a state of profound humility and gratefulness. Together, we silently acknowledged the perspective that spending any time at a children’s hospital will provide.

As awful as it was to see The Mayor in such pain and to feel so helpless, he will heal.


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Yesterday I asked for perspective on boys as babysitters.

In response, an astounding number of people shared very personal stories with me. Some left their stories in the post's comments, but far more sent me a private e-mail.

I feel like I have a responsibility to acknowledge and appreciate the leap of faith that so many of you took in sharing your experiences with me.

I promise to hold your words in trust.

Thank you.




173 comments:

Life As I Know It said...

Oh, how scary! Glad his arm is ok and will heal, but it is always scary taking your kid to the hospital, for whatever reason.

Hope he is feeling better.

-The Shiny Happy Mama- said...

Oh, poor guy!!!! Poor you, too. It's so stressful when those things happen. Sending hugs from Boston.

Mrs. Fussy Fussypants said...

Oh Jess. I know as a mom that yesterday was unbearably tough for you! I've been there. Long after the kids are all better and it all a distant memory, we moms, still get nauseaus just from the memories!

Where's my pepto?

Dawn said...

Oh my goodness, I am trying to hold back tears. Poor little guy!! Poor momma!!! Oh how I dread the day I have to make a drive like that. I know it is coming, but I just get sick thinking about it. I hope everyone recovers quickly. Big (((hugs))) to you all.
D

Scout's Honor said...

Oh shiznuts!

My daughter had that same exact break last year on the playground! Surprise. Break above the elbow, diagonally, while falling headfirst on the slippery dome equipment. Yep, two pins.

Don't worry! With those pins, it healed quickly. She had the cast off in 4 weeks. Was swimming competitively TWO days later. Came in fifth in her event at a regional championship 2 weeks later. Kids! They heal. Now the scar isn't pretty, but we have an olympic swimmer on our team who also had the same break. Ten years later, it looks pretty good.

By the way, I so hear you on children's hospitals. I felt so fortunate. I saw so many sobbing parents. So many bald heads with wobbly smiles and inconsolable babies. So much dispair in our over night stay. This hospital stay made me feel so fortunate! The hospital (Seattle Children's) was so wonderful.

Edge said...

Ahhh, glad to hear the Mayor is in one piece again.

~Jef

Sunshine said...

He'll tell the story with pride for many years to come! "Hey, guys, did I ever tell you about the time I busted my arm?"

Has your heart rate returned to normal yet? :)

Carrie said...

Big hugs for him and you. Nothing is scarier than a call like that.

Rima said...

Those had to be terrifying minutes and hours for you and the Mayor. I'm so glad to hear he will be OK. I'm sending healing thoughts your way.

Hol&J said...

Gosh! Poor Mayor, and you as well. Hope he is feeling a bit better, and that he'll recover quickly.

Keeping you all in my thoughts.

Sister Honey Bunch said...

Oh the poor baby. And poor you. I totally know how you were feeling.

JaniceNW said...

Oh poor Mayor. Poor mom and dad. I'm glad he'll be okay and you'll be surprised by how quickly he recovers!

seven said...

Crazy. I hope he heals up fast... and that you recover from your own trauma! :)

Jennifer, Le Binky Bitch said...

Oh no, poor Mayor. Hugs to you guys!

HLHArts said...

Poor Mayor!!! I hope he is feeling better soon! Maybe any day now he will start thinking his cast is cool...

mommymommyland said...

I am so so soryy! I hope the mayor heals quickly. I remember when my oldest was just under 2 and had a hairline fracture in his ankle, he was misserable! I can't imagine how bad the mayor must have felt.

Not the Queen said...

I just...I just can't imagine! My heart just broke for your precious family. Poor Mayor! No mom should have to go through that. No kid, either. Unfortunately they do, and it's just a part of growing up...for both the kid and the parent.

liv said...

Oh, poor, poor precious thing. I can't imagine the terror that you and K must have felt. Am so glad that it is a new day, and things have got to be looking better. A little?

Spending time at a children's hospital does sober one up rather fast. I know.

jen said...

oh good lord, Jess. The Mayor. You. The fright. The pain.

I am so, so sorry.

ewe are here said...

OH NO! I am so sorry about your boy's arm. And how scared you must have been for him.

I hope he mends quickly.

The Other Dawn said...

Poor Rooster. Do you know what a big brother with a cast can wreak?!?

Kimmylyn said...

My heart was racing with this story.. Poor little guy.. I hope he is feeling better.

CamiKaos said...

oh poor little man... I wish him a speedy recovery...

and you too.

naginata said...

I had to read this story with one eye closed. Hugs to you all and I hope your heart slows down soon.

Annie said...

Poor baby - hope he heals quick, and gets lots of 'feel better' treats in the meantime.

Being in the ER is no fun - and yes, you do leave with an unbelievable sense of gratitude toward those who've helped send your precious baby on the road to recovery.

Cathy said...

My heart stopped while reading this.

Poor little guy. I hope he — and you — recover soon.

Chanda (aka Bea) said...

Im so sorry to hear about The Mayor's fall. I can't imagine how you must have felt trying to get to him. Im glad he is on the mend, my thoughts are with you and your family.

mimikatemom said...

Healing thoughts to Mayor [chicks dig scars buddy!!]

Nice job keeping your $h*t together and I've been down that road in a children's hospital. Will make you get down on your knees and thank God for the blessings given.

Will be a good story someday!
E

Shauna Loves Chocolate said...

What a scary experience. For all of you. Hugs to the whole family.

Hairline Fracture said...

Poor little guy! And there's nothing scarier than one of your kids hurting and you can't fix it. I wish him a speedy recovery.

BlondeMomBlog (Jamie) said...

I am so sorry! Poor Mayor, poor you!

Glad he is back at home and healing.

Take care. I can't imagine having to take one of my girls to the ER. I know my heart would have been pounding.

Lisa said...

oh, how scary!! I am so sorry for his (and your) experience, but I'm glad to hear all will be well.

Smiling Mom said...

Oh I'm so sorry. I cried as I read. I can't imagine the fear you felt.

Amy Linder said...

OMG! I can't even imagine being able to keep myself together in such a terrible situation! Bravo to you for taking care of things as calmly as you could. I hope The Mayor is settled now and able to get some pain relief.

Take care!

meno said...

Oh how awful and sad. There's nothing that will tear your heart out faster than your hurt child.

Best wishes for positive healing.

Bob said...

it is so very frightening when you get that call. we've had a few emergency room visits when ours were babies. it shreds your heart to see them hurt.

poor guy, I hope he heals quickly and this soon becomes a memory.

we_be_toys said...

Poor little guy! Poor Mama and Daddy too! Hope you guys are all recuperating - emergency trips to the hospital with a kid suck!

love and kisses from NC

Catizhere said...

Oh, Mayor!
I wish you a speedy recovery with very little atrophy or itchiness.

A word of caution.... DO NOT USE A WIRE HANGER to scratch under the cast.

Mrs. Chicken said...

Oh my god, Jess, that is terrible! I am so sorry. And so glad it isn't worse. Hope The Mayor mends fast - he will, he's young and healthy. I'm sure it will take you longer to recover.

thinking of you.

Kelly said...

Poor Mayor! Poor Momma... Hope the healing is fast!

Dory said...

Oh, thank God he's ok.

I bet you're still all shaky.

I'm so sorry that happened.

Dory

♥♥♥ A- Licious ♥♥♥ said...

oh UGH i am dreading those days...having a boy myself - i know they are most likely coming.

so sorry ma....he will heal and so will mama - until next time of course.

;-) sending some supportive blog vibes your way! ~~~**~~~~**~~~~~**

a-licious xoxoox

Jennifer said...

Oh no! The poor, poor Mayor. And you, too. I know that Mama Panic and it is an awful feeling. I feel shaky just reading this, for goodness' sake. Gentle thoughts to all of you.

DD said...

Tears sprang to my eyes b/c I know that if you could have taken on that pain yourself, you would have done so. That's what Mom's do, and we do it damn well.

Tell him by the time swimming weather comes along, his arm will be nice and strong.

Cyndi said...

Oh my goodness. He sounds like he was very brave.

Misa Gracie said...

My heart goes out to you and The Mayor... to K and Rooster too!

It's tough, but he'll have fun getting his cast signed! That's not a very bright spot - but it's something!

(I broke my arm as a kid too and that's all I remember, the drawing on and signing of my cast.)

Day Dreamer said...

Oh, damn. I'm so sorry. Just thinking about it made my eyes well up. I understand the screaming at the windows. I understand the feeling when someone says 'you need to calm down', and the prospective of sitting in the child's wing at a hospital.

I'm glad he'll be okay. (Gentle) hugs from Oklahoma.

Stimey said...

Oh, I'm so sorry. I know what you mean about spending time at a children's hospital. It can really make you grateful for the health your children have.

Jordan said...

Phew. Poor, poor guy. And poor you! I'm so sorry. I hope he heals as quickly and well as possible, and that you can catch your breath soon!

Arwen said...

The first time Noodle had to be taken quickly to the ER I was to blame for her injury (long story, makes me cry, accidents suck). I remember staying calm, I remember the Er and going home and getting her to sleep and then I remember lying in my husbands arms and sobbing for hours. It is the feeling of helplessness coupled with the extreme desire to remove all pain from our children. He will be fine and you will be fine but you will be able to use this memory as a cry on demand thought.

Magpie said...

Poor boy! He'll heal quickly - little people do that very well.

bethtrue said...

Hang in there - {{{hugs}}} to you and little guy and the whole family!!

Rachel said...

That's so awful! It must have been so hard for you to see him in pain like that. Sending good thoughts/ vibes your way.

Loralee Choate said...

I am so sorry the poor guy had to go through that. I'm so sorry YOU had to go through that, too.

Parental fear for a hurt or sick child is unlike any other.

I hate hospitals with the power of a thousand burning sons. I don't think I'll ever go in one again with nausea and bad memories.

Kyla said...

Oh J! I'm so sorry. How scary. Goodness.

I'm glad he was repaired and is mending. But the ER, x-rays, surgery...what a panic-filled whirlwind.

LadyBugCrossing said...

I'm sure that was scary for you. He will be back up and running around in no time.

Mrs. T said...

Oh, the poor Mayor! Hugs to you all and wishing a very speedy recovery!

jakelliesmom said...

I hope, HOPE, that your boy allowed you to comfort him and that at the end of the days you keep your positive perspective.

No stranger to the ER, I've not had to manage the drama of surgery on one of mine yet. Awful.

xoxo

Jenifer said...

My goodness! Poor wee guy. Last year Rosebud broke her foot, it is not fun. All I can say is invest in that vinyl sock thing for bathing...you put it on suck out the air with a little pump and then voila they can have a bath. It never leaks and avoids all the taping and bag drama.

Also, I had 4 pins in my arm (elbow area) at age 10 and I turned out just fine!

Big hugs to The Mayor!

motherbumper said...

That is awful, I wish The Mayor a very speeding recovery and I send Mom a virtual hug followed by a shot of Tequila.

Damselfly said...

Oh my goodness! How awful. How scary. How wonderful that you could be there for him. I hope the Mayor heals perfectly and quickly.

Mel said...

Holy shit. I'm terrified of getting that phone call.
Yipes. Hugs to you both.

rookiemom said...

Oh my! That must have been terrifying, the poor guy! Here's hoping he's feeling better.

Blog Antagonist said...

Poor Mayor!! And poor you! It's awful to see your children in pain and to feel so helpless.

Though neither of my boys has had any broken bones, we've been to Children's hospitals for various other reasons. Yes. They will provide a megadose of perspective.

But still, a boo boo is a boo boo and nobody likes to see their baby with a boo boo.

Gingers Mom said...

Oh that must have been terrifying! I have had to rush my son to the ER before too. It was dreadful. I am so glad that he will be ok!

Corgimom said...

So sorry to read of Mayor's misfortune. I hope he heals quickly!

Mama DB said...

Oh Jess, I'm so so sorry. Poor little guy. I hope he heals quickly. And virtual hugs to you. I dread that kind of call from the school.

Omaha Mama said...

I'm so glad he's alright. Your perspective made me cry, we went through that same thing with our little boy's recent outpatient surgery. While any time at the Children's Hospital sucks, I think of my brother's little boy and his ongoing chemo. It's all too much. Every time I go there, I try to come home and post about the atmosphere there.

There just aren't words.

I hope that his recovery is complete and that he adjusts well to the cast. The nice part is that children are so resilient and really are little troopers.

All my best.

Erika Jurney, Plain Jane Mom said...

Oh no! Poor Mayor! You guys all get some rest, OK?

Shannon said...

Wow!! What a tremendous break. Poor little guy. I would've been sick between taking him in and dealing with him going through surgery.

I guess the silver lining is once he's feeling better, he can brag about his broken arm.

I still like to brag about the broken collar bone I got when I was six.

Maddy said...

I'll pop a packet of hair dye in the post, is it any wonder that we're all grey hairs and wrinkles.....oh no......that's just me of course.
Wishing him well knitted soon

Em said...

OUCH! A scary moment for you and him. I hope he heals quickly!

furiousBall said...

this might just be the codeine talking after the wisdom teeth getting pulled, but what the heck, let's get marriedszb

SciFi Dad said...

Poor little man.

But, he will heal in time. And plus he'll always have the story about the period in his life where he had a partially bionic arm.

(He's still too young for the Steve Austin tv series, isn't he?)

I hope he feels better soon.

flutter said...

OH jess, your poor little guy!

PunditMom said...

OMG, I'm so sorry!! I hope all heals well.

Jodi said...

This post made my stomach lurch. Because, you see, BTDT. Two years ago this past November Rob fell off a scooter at the neighbor's house. She offered him a BANDAID, but then noticed that just above the wrist his arm took a noticeable TURN. Ummm, keep the bandaid and get the *#&^ out of my way!

He didn't need surgery, but I still feel your pain. I, too, drove all the way to the hospital (20 minutes) with him screaming and crying in the back seat. And had to wait in the ER and all that.

Best wishes for a speedy recovery. For him AND you!

Cat, Galloping said...

oh, it sounds awful! i hope he heals quickly.

Lisa Milton said...

Poor mayor and mommy - the ER sucks.

Take care, house of joy. You're in my thoughts.

EE said...

That is such a bummer!
With 3 kids, we've experienced 5 broken bones (all sports or playground related)...it never gets any easier.
Hang in there!

Lori at Spinning Yellow said...

Oh no! Poor Mayor and poor mommy. That is so scary! I hope he heals quickly.

Meegan said...

I have tears in my eyes. Taking a child to the hospital is so awful. I've only had to do it twice and they were just minor "owies". It makes me feel so lucky that I'm not one of the many parents out there that have to make that trek day in and day out. Thank heavens the Mayor is ok. (Oh, the tears in my eyes might have something to do with the fact that I'm 12 weeks pregnant. I felt that full disclosure was due.)

Sadie said...

OMG! How terrifying!!! I'm so sorry!! I'm glad that he's on the mend, though.

Fran said...

Bless his heart! I know how traumatic that was for him and you! Give him a hug from Frannycakes!

Amy said...

Oh the poor little thing! I'm so sorry but I'm SO glad he's going to be fine.

ImpostorMom said...

OMG! Poor Mayor. Get well soon and hugs to you as well.

Kelley said...

Shit. I am cursed.

Since Boo broke a bone in his foot at school 2 weeks ago, this the the FOURTH story of a child breaking a bone at school.

All blogs I read.

All bloggers that comment/read my blog.

I am sorry!

Smootches for the Mayor and a bigger one for you.

Laura said...

Oh poor little man.

Sending him lots of heal fast vibes!

Nancy said...

That is the scariest, gut wrenching feeling when you get "the call".

I'm glad he's mended, and I pray for a quick healing.

Mayberry said...

Oh the Mayor! Get well soon, little man.

LSM said...

I know that "I'm going to be sick from looking at this x-ray" moment. I'm so sorry both you and The Mayor had to go through this. I'll think good, healing thoughts for him.

Crunchy Carpets said...

Oh ouch!
Poor kid....well he will brag about it later..when it stops throbbing and you will enjoy the gray hair from him aging you ten years from all the stres

mamatulip said...

Oh, Jessica. My heart is with you, K, The Mayor and Rooster.

Give him a gentle squeeze from me.

Karly said...

Oh, poor Mayor! I hope he sleeps okay tonight! I hate for little ones to be hurt like that...they're just so pitiful and they don't understand and now I'm going to go cry for the Mayor.

Fooped said...

Oh good lord girl! Poor little man and poor mommy and daddy. I have a guess as to who will be more scarred by this experience (hint, it's not the Mayor).

Mister E and I are sending healing vibes your way.

Much love.

Beck said...

Your poor baby!

notfearingchange said...

poor Mayor! :o(

Time to sign that cast! uber cool. :o)

Christina said...

That's got to be one of the most terrifying things a parent has to go through. I'm glad it was fixable, and hope it heals quickly. Poor guy, and poor mama. I can't imagine the stress that caused you.

jess said...

Oh, poor Mayor! I hope he's feeling better. I hope YOU'RE feeling better. He'll be much less traumatized by this than his mom, but you wouldn't want it any other way. My prayers go out to your family, Jess.

deb said...

Sorry to hear about your little one. Hope he's up and around soon. The amazing thing about little kids it that they get over things faster than adults do. He'll forget about it long before you do. Take care.

Patience said...

Oh poor Mayor! {{{Big Hugs}}}

Sarah O. said...

Oh my god. Seeing your child so badly hurt is horribly painful. Hope you're all on the mend.

anna said...

Oh, poor Mayor! Glad he is home and you are all knitting yourselves back together again.

Scout's Honor said...

Oh, one thing I forgot. I was told that bad things happened in threes.

After my daughter had that same break and then cast removed, my son broke his wrist on Heelies at a swim meet. I didn't realize it was broken and I had him swim a 200Backstroke and 100 IM before the kid was sobbing in the pool. Yeah! Mom of the year.

Then a month later, the very same daughter tripped at swim practice with her stupid Crocs and broke the opposing wrist. Yep, three breaks in less than 6 months.

Someone mentioned before a cast cover. There is this thing called a Xerosox. GET one. woman!

My kids were in the pool for an hour at a time--as in competitively swim practice, completely submerged, with the Xerosox. The kids didn't use broken arm/wrist, but were able to swim, kick, etc. No leaks. They were also able to take baths and showers. That in itself is sooooo worth the $30 I paid on ebay.

Here's a link:
http://www.desertmedicalessentials.com/index.php?cPath=74

Finally, we started a cast collection. There are so many cute colors now days. We got hot pink, light pink, red, black, camouflauge, and glow in the dark white. The black was our favorite because we could use white and silver sharpies. I have some pics on my blog. My son got the most attention with the camo. I believe there are also dinos and soccer balls. The kids loved picking the casts colors out.It definitely took the "pain" away.

Me, I could have down without the stress. I kept waiting for a knock from CPS. :)

Queen Karana said...

Yikes.
Poor little Mayor... I hope he will start feeling better soon. POOR MOM! What a scary experience...
I haven't had an experience quite like yours, but I have experienced that dreaded call from school when they say "This is an emergency..."

AGH! I'm starting to hyperventilate just thinking about it. I AM SO SORRY you had to go through this.

Hang in there!

Alpha DogMa said...

Oh, lil' Mayor. Poor boy. And he's still too young to enjoy the temporary popularity of going to school with a cast and having all his friends sign it.

(Uh. Was I overly bitchy yesterday? Because I was more thinking of 'you' in the general sense in my comment. Sorry if I was offensive. I get uppity like that sometimes. I blame the liquor. And the crack.)

Serina Hope said...

I am so sorry to hear that. Nothing hurts me worse than knowing that mine are in pain.
I hope he heals quickly.

QT said...

Sleep well tonight, Jess. WOW!!! Hugs all around to the House of Joy.

FUN-ky Mama said...

Poor Mayor! I hope he heals quickly and is out of pain now.
xoxo

carrie said...

Oh Jess, that is terrible scary and your perspective of the whole thing is so true.

Never do you feel so afraid and grateful than during those moments.

I am glad The Mayor is healing. May he continue to recover well.

Moppet's Mom said...

That was so scary. Poor, poor Mayor, I cannot imagine how much pain he must've been in. I hope he's doing better now. And you too.

meera said...

Sending many thoughts of love and healing to the Mayor. That sounds like it was really scary!!! Oh life....it can be so intense at times, and a children"s hospital does indeed highlight this...in ways one would never want to imagine!!!!!

I'm glad the day ended with hugs for you all.

mel from freak parade said...

Oh no! Poor, little guy. Poor mama, too. Spoil him like crazy tomorrow, will you? Okay, spoil him like crazy for, like, a week. :)

Queen of Shake-Shake said...

Poor Mayor! I hope he is feeling better soon.

~JJ! said...

Oh Mayor!!!

Please feel better soon!!!

You too Mama!

Mimi aka pz5wjj said...

Oh how scary! Sam broke his leg almost exactly a year ago.

Not as severely, but still not pretty.

Hope The Mayor (and you two) are feeling better and recover.

Jessica @ A Bushel and a Peck said...

OH, that is awful for you and for the Mayor. Both my kids have broken bones--my daughter snapped her collarbone just before she turned 2, and my son broke his leg when he was 13 months, but thankfully neither required surgery. I hope you're all feeling better soon!

3carnations said...

Oh my gosh! I'm glad he will be OK, but what a terrifying experience. There's nothing that hurts more than when your child is hurt. :(

WILLIAM said...

wow

Mrs. Schmitty said...

Oh the poor Mayor! You must have been so upset and scared. I hope you both are doing better. Hugs to you both!

Circus Kelli said...

Oh my gosh! That must have been so scary for you and the Mayor. I'm glad he will be ok... and that you will, too.

Jodi said...

My heart was racing and breaking as I read your entry this morning. Poor Mayor! I'm glad they patched him up and I'll be even gladder when the cast is off and he's back to his old self!

Big hugs to all of you!

megachick said...

speedy recovery to the mayor.
detroit children's hospital is awesome! for all that i don't like going there....

the verification is sddey: sad day, indeed

Mama Drama Jenny, the Bloggess said...

God. It makes me want to vomit.

Big hugs. You kept it together.

Little Monkies said...

Oh, girlfriend.

I just had a vision of you rushing through the hospital clutching the Mayor and it gave me the chills.

Fragile, we all are. Love to you and M and K and R.

(I have to say, though, I am glad you got to be with him. He needed you...you.)

Super B's Mom said...

Poor Mayor. What a horrible day you had. I am in tears just thinking about how frightening this experience was for you.

Praying that the little man feels better soon. Hugs to you, Mom.

Mrs. Fuchsia Pink said...

Isn't it amazing how time in a children's hospital can bring your life into perspective. My niece was hospitalized frequently for nearly two years for a rare cancer. Everytime I left there my "problems" seemed so insignificant.

However, she had a perspective of her own. When she was receiving chemo, my sister and I were crying over her state. She looked at us and said "Stop crying. It's only a tumor. It's not like I have a broken leg or something." She was grateful that she could walk and play and didn't have to limit her activity due to an injury. She taught me so much -- I miss her.

Kris H. said...

Having to admit one of my kids to the hospital was the hardest thing I have ever done. Having to do it again is one of my biggest fears. Give the Mayor a great bit hug from the internet. And you deserve a bit hug too!

Jim L said...

Yikes! I don't know if I want to have kids now.

jennifer h said...

Poor little guy. And poor you. Glad to know he's on the mend. This tore my heart out. No one ever wants to get that kind of call.

Binkytown said...

Oh!Oh!

There are no words, no pain worse than hearing them saying Mama make it stop hurting.

I'm so glad he will heal. Be good to yourself today. You've been through a lot too.

Kevin Charnas said...

OH JESSICA!! I'm so glad that he's okay...relatively speaking. That poor little guy. You must have been...I dunno. I had such a tightness in my chest reading this.

Anyway, I'm thrilled that he's going to be okay. And the Mayor? Well, he's a total badass, if I've ever seen one.

Angela said...

Poor you and your little guy! It must have been so very scary and painful for him, I am so very sorry.

Ann M. said...

Poor little Mayor, and how scary for you! I hope everything heals quickly and easily.

Draw some cool things on his cast for him.

Liz said...

Delurking to say, UGH, this is perhaps one of the most nearly made me throw up-type posts I've read in a while.

SO glad to hear that The Mayor is put back together, again!

Hugs

Leah said...

I am glad that he is going to be ok. My prayers are with you.

Emily N said...

How awful!! Poor little guy. If I were you I would offer him as much TV and ice cream as he wants. As much as you want too - it's almost harder on mom and dad then on the kid. They'll barely remember it, while you will never forget it ;-(

Claire B. said...

Poor little one! I can't imagine what you two went through during the surgery. Speedy recovery.

skiplovey said...

Geez I started to feel all panick-y just reading the story. Poor little guy, hope he has a speedy recovery!

Above Average Joe said...

Sorry to hear about the Mayor. Hope everything is ok.

Shannon said...

I'm just crying here. poor baby - and poor you and k.

slouching mom said...

Poor, poor Mayor. Hold him tight for me, will ya?

And hugs to you. That must have been so incredibly frightening.

FishyGirl said...

Oh, poor little guy. And poor Mommy. I HATE those trips to the hospital. Glad that he will heal, and I hope your heart does soon.

Bon said...

oh, J, i had tears in my eyes by the end of the children's hospital part...it is so hard to be confronted with your child's vulnerability, and so painful to see him in pain.

you sound like you did real good. and he will heal, you're right. but poor little...i'm so sorry.

Emily said...

Ugh. I'm so sorry about the Mayor's arm.

Please note that GIGANTIC LOLLIPOPS, ice cream, and cake go a long, long way to heal broken bones. They don't however help much for parents who are reeling from the shock and panic of having your child involved in an emergency surgery.

Best wishes!
Emily

chantelle said...

Oh! Poor little guy! Hugs to you him and the whole family.

She She said...

Oh, poor baby. I'm sending healing vibes the Mayor's way. (And to you, too.)

Diane said...

Oh oh oh! I'm so sorry to hear that! I hope he's alright now. I think I would have puked right there in the emergency room. No, in the school. They would have had to call an ambulance for us both. Good job, Mama!

kittenpie said...

Oh, Joy! That is the phone call no mother ever wants to get, but thank goodness he'll be alright. You're quite right - children's hospitals have so many worse stories, and we're lucky.

MsPrufrock said...

Poor Mayor...I hope he's not in too much pain anymore and heals quickly!

Reesie said...

OMG, I read this last night and it put my crankiness over our lack of power for 8 hours into perspective.

OUCHIES to The House of Joy!!! Lots of good wishes and fairy kisses for a quick recovery to the Mayor.

Just some thoughts for others (like me) who have kids who are likely to make many trips to the emergency room. Seriously consider calling 911 in a situation like this. Kids are known for their drama, but if the teachers weren't able to calm him by the time you fought the traffic out of your driveway, this was a serious injury. Yes, an ambulance ups the drama quotient, but breaks like this can cause kids (& adults) to go into shock and frankly, you just don't want to be dealin' with that in rush hour traffic. Add to that, your level of distraction over his pain and the usual other crazies that are on the road. You don't need a second accident to further complicate things.

In the immortal words of Bossy "Consider calling 911 and putting them in charge" in this case, that frees you to totally focus on the Mayor and his needs.

That said hindsight is 20/20 and please Jess, I am NOT judging you. We all do the best we can for our kids especially in a crisis situation. This definitely falls into the "take my advice, I'm not using it" category. May these thoughts help another reader who has the unfortunate luck to end up in a similar situation and may The House of Joy never go through this again!!

Chocolate to everyone!

LceeL said...

As I am writing this, there a 151 comments on this post. I can't say anything that hasn't already been said, but I will say, anyway, that kids heal, and no, it is never, NEVER easy to see or even contemplate your child in pain. Tell him, for me, I wish I could sign his cast.

Hang in there.

Don Mills Diva said...

Oh my goodness - I feel sick thinking about it! The poor little guy...HUGS to both of you.

Miscellaneous-Mum said...

Glad he's on the road to recovery. Such a nasty shock.

Ribbon Rock Star said...

Poor lil guy. I am so sorry he got hurt like that. Hope he is pain free very soon.

Linda

Chicky Chicky Baby said...

Poor Mayor!

I'm sending some good ju ju for his wee broken arm. And for your frazzled state of mind.

girl of a thousand blogs said...

My son (now 10) went through this exact surgery when he was four. It is VERY IMPORTANT that you don't let anyone/thing bump his arm, and if he tells you it hurts suddenly, take him in again -- I thought it was just continuing pain, but my son had bumped his arm out of the setting and we had to go back in for MORE surgery to reset the pins. Don't go there!

Sending mama hugs your way.

Liam's Mom - Gina said...

I can only imagine your stress and worry that day. I am so sorry. Poor guy.

Fairly Odd Mother said...

Oh goodness--the poor little guy! (and poor mama!)

We once drove our daughter to the hospital in a panic----once we got there we vowed we'd never do that again---next time, we'll call an ambulance. It is just too stressful to try to maneuver through traffic at those moments.

The Super Bongo said...

warm thoughts your direction . . . I guess this is what it means when adults say "this is gonna hurt me more than it hurts you" right?

imaginary binky said...

Yikes! Here's to the Mayor getting his bones healed up.
I tremble at the thought of Amos breaking anything. I wince with pain when he bangs his head with the remote control.

Jo Beaufoix said...

I can't imagine what that must have been like for all of you. I'm so glad he's on the mend. I have to go hug my kids now.

Mimi said...

OMG! I can only imagine how scared you must have been. Poor Mayor! I'm glad he's on the mend. I'm sorry you were all so scared.

Maureen said...

Oh, I am so sorry to read about this. Hope he is feeling better and that soon the memory of all this will just be of the cool cast and all the attention and love he is showered with.

cinnamon gurl said...

Oh that sounds AWFUL! So glad he'll heal but, oh! The poor guy...

Deana said...

now that all the goddesses are blogging, I best figure out how to leave a comment. :)

Lawyer Mama said...

Oh, sweetie! How scary! For you and for him. I'm so glad he's going to heal. ((hugs))

jeanie said...

Oh so sorry to hear that - my daughter had that exact break when she was 6 courtesy of a trampoline. I hear you on the car ride - luckily the triage took one look at my screaming child and raced her through to the back rooms to save spooking all the other kids.

The pins do come out once its knitted - she never got a cast as it was too close to the elbow and thus had a "backslab" and was bandaged.

Major Bedhead said...

Scary stuff. Poor Mayor. I hope he heals quickly.

BOSSY said...

HOW DID AUNT BOSSY MISS THIS POST? She's been commenting to the right and left of it, but somehow missed the fact that the poor Mayor broke his arm. And so badly! Kisses, Mayor. Kisses, mom. Awwww.

Grim Reality Girl said...

I am late to comment and pray he is doing better.... you brought back horrible memories of my daughter's arm break.... You are so right about the perspective you get at the children's hospital. So sorry that he and YOU went through this!

uurchin said...

Oh J, I'm sorry for the late comment here but that sounds awful! Poor mayor! I hope the new cast and pain meds are helping. I had nerve damage in one of my fingers from an accident and the shooting pain stinks. the dr told me it was my nerves regenerating themselves- I hope that he is 100% very soon.

xoxo- urchin

Mad said...

I was buried too deep in my own levels of hell back in Feb to see this. I am sorry, Jess. This must have been terrifying. I read yesterday's post about his hand and I now feel sick with worry for the worry you must be carrying.

I may not comment much here these days, but know that I am around reading where and when I can.