Friday, February 29, 2008

Since You're Gone

Catherine and Tracey asked me write a flashback post on this theme:

"How (The Smiths, Nirvana, Debbie Gibson, *insert band name/artist here*) Changed My Life." Pick whatever band, performing artist, one-hit wonder - even just a single song, if you want - and write a post about how it moved / rocked / utterly transformed your adolescent / teenage / young-adult self.

I struggled with what to write about.

Like most teens, my musical taste was sort of a membership requirement for my social clique, but did it actually change my life?

I wanted to give up on writing on this theme, but I kept thinking.

I wandered around in
the memories of my adolescence and found myself locked in my parent's car on a hot summer day feverishly journaling about a canoe trip I had returned from a week earlier.

In July of 1982, my friends Tom and Andre invited eight kids from our high school freshman class to join them on their church youth group's trip down the Wisconsin River.

I found four legal pad pages covered with tiny writing on both sides tucked between the pages of my "Official Preppy Secrets" diary just where I remembered hiding them so long ago.

In the journal entry, I painstakingly recounted even the most insignificant details of the canoe trip.

It seems I recorded everything, not sure at the time which details were important and which were not.

This trip, in its own way, was life changing and because the ten of us listened to the same songs over and over again, it is set to a soundtrack in my memory.

It's a long account that ends in tragedy.

I was fourteen when I wrote it.

Here it is...


August 1982

For all of us who went and understand...

Everyone met at Immanuel Lutheran Church on Friday, July 23 at 1:00.

We somehow managed to get all the gear in the few cars we had and begin the three hour journey to Sauk City, Wisconsin where our trip started.

We were all paired up and lined up in our fine canoes.
Mike I. and Mike K. were partners, Debbie and I, Tom and Andre, Steve and Pat and, finally, Lisa and Cindy. There were other people on the trip but the ten of us stayed to ourselves. We sat waiting for Erik, the leader, to say we could go.

Finally, we pushed off. Lisa traded canoes with Debbie so that she and Cindy could both paddle the first stretch with someone who knew how to canoe.

Steve and Pat had to stay behind for an hour and a half waiting for a car to bring their cooler.

Lisa and I successfully got under the first bridge and were met by Mike and Mike, then Tom and Andre.

We tied the three canoes together and waited for Cindy and Debbie.

Debbie was supposed to be experienced at canoeing but for some reason she and Cindy could only move the canoe in every direction but forward.

When they finally reached us we tied their canoe on and drifted in our four canoes.

The canoe became "Cary Canoe" because of "Gary Gnu," a newscaster on a children's show.

Mike and Mike had to go to the bathroom so they jumped out and swam quite a ways to the shore.

When they were swimming back we realized for the first time how strong the Wisconsin River current could be.

Mike K. got caught in it and was swimming desperately against it.

I remember being very scared that he would drown.

Tom was ready to go in after him if he had to (as Tom is an important part of the varsity swim team,) but Mike got out of it and both Mikes got back in the canoe.

Because of the fact that four canoes tied together don’t go anywhere, we split apart two and two.

Lisa and I were with both Mikes. Cindy and Debbie went with Tom and Andre.

For awhile our two separate vessels drifted down the restful river. The sun was beginning to set and we were surrounded by the blue-green river, thick green trees, the soft tan sand and the orange-yellow, glowing sun.

We had gotten ourselves about half an hour behind the 18 or 19 other canoes and Steve and Pat were nowhere in sight.

With no warning, we found ourselves swarmed by a huge flock of birds. We were sure we’d be the victims of birds going to the bathroom, but we all came out clean.

We decided to paddle so we might have a chance to set up and eat before dark. Debbie got in with Andre and Tom climbed in with Cindy but then, they separated their canoes so it was our double and their two singles.

We Hawaii 5. 0.’d it the rest of the eleven miles we had to go that night.

I remember the sun going down behind a big hill and it was just out of sight when we finally reached the sandbar where our group was camped.

We four girls and the four guys set up our two tents far away and facing away
from the others.

As soon as we had the tents up and the charcoal going it was getting really dark and Pat and Steve got there. They set up their tent in pattern with ours forming a 3three sided square facing away from the larger group. Mike K. fixed hamburgers while Lisa, Cindy, Tom and Andre ate their chicken.

By the time we had all eaten it was very late. It was a good thing that earlier, when we could still see, we girls had walked half a mile down the sandbar to pull off our pants and pee.

We searched the brush and found enough wood for a small fire, but we were called away for devotions.

A guy with black hair named Brian led the devotion. It was about how God had created everything and everything was different – like every grain of sand. He also said that this wasn’t a retreat, it was a vacation and that we should all just have a good time. During this devotion, Mike and Mike were eating Nutter Butters and Pinwheel Cookies. I had pretzels. Pat and Steve had Fritos or something and so on. It’s lucky I was able to hear devotions! When they were over, the ten of us went back to our own “resort.”

Since we were on the sand, the fire was in a hole that we dug. It was a little weak so Lisa and I went down to Fable’s tent to get a log out of their fire. They gave us one and as we were leaving (after returning their shovel) they were screaming, “We love you!” and such. Lisa yelled back, “Are you near sighted?” and we ran back to our set up laughing.

We all sat around the fire and made s’mores and listened to Mike K. and Pat sing Bruce Springsteen. It reminded me of those Pepsi commercials where a group of teen-agers are having a fire on the beach. The fact that we were all together was all the really mattered.

Interrupting our Utopia every five minutes was one of the counselors. They must have thought we were having an orgy or something. They’d even stand in the shadows and just watch. Finally Erik told us it was time to hit the sack. Every one of us, at the exact same time, without warning, hit the ground with their hand. Mike I. laughed all night.

We did all go in our tents. The guys raided the girls and then we raided them as The Goodnight Kiss Patrol. All of a sudden there was Erik at the tent door. We girls hurried back to our own tent. Erick said to us, “I notice it’s the girls in the guys tent, not the guys in the girls.”

“Now he thinks we’re whores!” we all groaned.

Just as we were about to go to his tent to explain how all of us were JUST FRIENDS he came down and apologized. He said he just didn’t like us in there and said that two had been in “prone” position.

(Cindy and Andre!Ha ha!)

Erik is definitely strange!

Earlier when we had just put on our pajamas, two of us in surgeon scrubs, two in sweat suits, Erik told us, “These guys don’t need the excitement of seeing you girls in your pajamas.”

They guys found it pretty funny. Since when are surgeon clothes and sweats arousing?

After Erik talked to us about our raid we settled down to go to sleep.

Lisa hyperventilated twice.

I was like a maniac screaming, “DON’T DIE!!”

Cindy told Mike to get Lisa a bag to breathe in so he got her a plastic one!??!!

After that I slept for about an hour and woke up to Cindy and both Mikes talking. I joined them outside with my sleeping bag.

Mike I. was worshipping Cindy’s legs and toes and Mike K. was insisting that my thighs could be food.

We were joined by Pat and Andrew and we started having modeling contests. We modeled our noses, our big toes, etc. Pat always won because he showed his parts in the most “professional” ways.

After that we buried Andre in the sand. It was about 4:00 a.m. and a counselor came and yelled at us for having kept him up all night.

We walked down to the river and crossed to a sandbar island.

Mike K. wrote “Dino the Dinosaur was here.”

We watched the orange, yellow, violet and red streaks of sunrise stripe the sky.

At around 5:00 a.m. the ten of us were all up and the brilliant yellow sun rose against the bluest sky.

Mike K. cooked bacon and eggs rather unsuccessfully while Tom ate like a king with Cindy, Andre and Lisa. Debbie and I had crumb cakes.

The funniest thing was Steve and Pat -- they had cold pop tarts for breakfast. The entire lot of food they brought consisted of seven boxes of pop tarts, two loaves of bread, a jar of peanut butter, a jar of jelly, a jar of marshmallow crème, some doughnuts, cereal (no milk), a bottle of strawberry soda and a few other things. The rest of us had steaks, eggs, fruit, etc. It was pretty funny.

We had all our stuff packed in the canoe by 7:30 but we weren’t leaving until 9:30.

Steve and I had a sand fight and were both totally covered in sand. When we had cleaned ourselves off, we joined everyone else in their search for minnows. They’d even made a private swimming pool for the ones we caught.

The sky looked like a baby blue backdrop for a big yellow spotlight as we left our first camp.

Debbie and I tied between the Mikes and Steve and Pat. Cindy and Lisa were tied to Tom and Andre. Right away we got ourselves about a mile behind the group.

We got hot and swam in the river which was about 80% waist high. The current was very strong in all depths of the water.

We gorged ourselves that day. Steve and I ate a whole bag of cherries. We tried to find out if the seeds would sink or float. They sank.

The whole day the other two canoes stayed away from our three. We were swimming and they were sunning.

Over and over we listened to “Since You’re Gone” by The Cars, “Going to a Go-Go” by The Rolling Stones and “Take it Away” by Paul McCartney on the mixed tape that Tom had brought on the trip.

We came to part of the river that was almost silver looking.

Tom, Lisa and Cindy had stopped somewhere for more intense rays.

Andre joined us and we all swam and pulled the canoes behind us.

The guys all took off their shorts and were letting the river carry them nude.

Mike and Mike were doing dolphin dives and teaching the rest of us the chorus to "Thunder Road" and "Born to Run" by Bruce Springsteen and some Jethro Tull song. Mike and Mike sang the songs all the way through and we joined in when we could.

“Boom Boom Out Go The Lights!”

So anyway, we were swimming along in waist deep water and all of a sudden there was a drop off and the waist deep water was twelve feet deep.

We were close to the bank but the water carried us pretty far before we realized the current was way too strong for us to be out there.

We swam to the side and grabbed onto trees. Steve, Mike and I were all hanging on one tree limb and Debbie and the other Mike were on another.

Andre and Pat were able to reach the canoes.

I was holding onto Steve. The current was so strong that our bodies were being pulled up onto the river's surface, pointing straight down the river.

Pat and Andrew got Steve, Mike I. and I, but we couldn’t get to Mike K. and Debbie.

Mike I. got in the boat and put on sweatpants, he had never put his shorts back on when he was in the water.

A motor boat picked up Debbie and Mike K. They were hanging on the side of it and the motor cut up Mike’s foot.

Mike got in and Debbie was hanging on the side of the canoe.

I was brushing my hair.

Mike I. was laughing at Mike K. whose shorts were thrown at him by the motor boat people.

Mike was cussing and screaming.

None of us really thought about what was going on.

When we were still in the water, Steve had jokingly said, “Oh, No! We’re drowning!”

Suddenly Debbie was back on a tree grabbing desperately onto branches that kept breaking.

We got her back into the canoe and a ranger got us off the log we were stuck on.

Mike K. got us all in life jackets pretty quick.

The ranger said to be careful because someone had just gone down.

Our rope was stuck, but we just cut it and left.

Around the bend we saw a lot of motor boats along a sandbar talking to people from our group.

We beached our canoes and learned that a kid from our group named Bobby had been swimming with his partner when he went under.

He never came up.

People who knew him were crying and we were just shocked.

Mike K. was by himself crying out of anger at our stupidity. He was punching his hand and maybe even cussing. I don’t know.

All I remember thinking was how unfair it was that we could fool around and act like assholes and live while an innocent kid drowned.

The counselors told us to take our canoes around to the other side of the sandbar to set up camp.

This sand bar was all hot sand, no brush hardly, nothing.

When we got our canoes around to the creek, (a small part of the river) Cindy, Tom and Lisa showed up. They had gotten themselves about a mile downstream and had to walk back up.

We unloaded our gear and then the entire group met.

We formed a huge circle, held hands and prayed.

We voted to continue the canoe trip and we went back and set up.

Mike I. and I washed our hair in the river while Steve played frisbee football with a lot of the youth group members.

We ate dinner early.

It was so hot on this sandbar. Lisa, Mike and I got towels and our pillows and laid down for awhile.

There was a helicopter looking for Bobby now and they were dragging the river.

I can’t stand the sight of those boats that drag the water.

We were all so hot and confused.

All you could really think about was night coming for cool air and sleep.

There was some comic relief.

Since there were no bushes on the sandbar, we had to canoe across the little part of the river to an island to go to the bathroom.

It became known as Excretion Island.

I was over there with Tom, Steve and Andre. I was sitting in the canoe listening to what they were saying.

Tom was laughing so hard and playing “Name That Shit.”

“Look at that one! That’s gotta be Joel’s!” he said.

Tom wanted to make a buried treasure map.

While they were there they took Molly Hatchet (our axe) and got some wood for a fire.

That night was very different from Friday night.

Things were funny, but not that funny.

We had devotions and Erik read some things to us. He told us that God gives us everything and sometimes he takes things away. It was Bobby’s time to be with God, he said. He also asked us if it had been us would we have bee ready. Would we have gone to Heaven?

Cindy and I were scared by that.

The ten of us laid our sleeping bags around what Andre was trying to make into a fire.

“Keep the fire burnin',’’ we sang.

Steve and I were sharing a pillow. The last thing I remember about Saturday night was talking to him about God and looking at the stars.

The next morning I awoke to a symphony of farts courtesy of Tom, Andre and Mike I.

We all got up and ate, then packed up, sat in the canoes and waited.

There was a final devotion by Sharon who read something from the Bible reassuring you that God is by your side.

Then we left, each girl in a canoe with a guy because the object Sunday was to go the final five miles fast and to be done.

We finally reached Spring Green, our destination.

We unloaded the canoes and had a long wait before we were leaving so we went swimming in what would have been a great swimming hole except for all the rocks.

The guys were jumping off a tree into the water. Mike and Pat were swinging on a rope singing “Give Me a Mountain, Give me a Dew!”

I cut my baby toe really bad on something. Erik fixed it up. A lot of people were crowded around -- to see the blood of a toe, I guess. Mocking the whole thing, Mike I. came rushing through to see and for his efforts he got handed my bloody paper towel.

We all kind of sat down and relaxed listening to the same songs over and over on Tom's tape.

I rode home with Tom’s parents and Andre.

Tom's parents were more than upset by the death, they were hostile. After their lecture, Tom and Andre had flashbacks about going to school at Immanuel Lutheran. They got so excited talking that they were spitting on me but I was so dirty already that I really didn’t care.

When we got back to the church, we found out that Mike had come careening into the church parking lot full of grieving, upset parents with “Limelight” by Rush blasting on the radio.

We had just missed a prayer and a lot of people were crying.

When I got home, I told my parents and went to my room.

I just cried and cried. Not only for Bobby’s death – I didn’t know him, but I cried because I realized how much we all grew up on the trip.

I can’t explain how I feel to anyone who wasn’t there.

I needed to write this all down so maybe I’ll understand things better.

God bless us all.

Reading about that trip these many years later I can see my young self so clearly.

I was a girl with one foot planted, deep as bedrock,
in childhood while the other foot desperately searched for a toe hold on the mystifying path to adulthood.

Throughout the journal entry I bounce back and forth between being a child at play and a young girl becoming conscious of her blooming sexuality.

I knew the trip was important, but couldn't quiet put my finger on the way that coping with this death nudged us all forward on our journey to maturity.

On July 24, 1982, Bobby Heinze drowned in the Wisconsin River.

I can't help wondering if his parents ever recovered.

I imagine they still miss him every day.

Bobby, you helped the ten of us grow up a little.

I hope you are at peace.

This song, played over and over again on that trip, is for you.


You can find more on this theme at these blogs:

Her Bad Mother
Oh, The Joys
Mrs. Flinger
Girl's Gone Child
Available Light
Red Pen Mama
Outta the Coop

Look for these bloggers next week:
Motherhood Uncensored


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Bon said...

wow, Jess. so strange to read the direct account in its original voice, the girl so clearly straddling worlds, as you said, and searching for meaning...the tragic and the mundane and the adolescent awkwardness and sexuality and the background music all mixed up together as if you were not sure which voice carried the right part of the story.

this post will be with me all day.

Susie said...

Oh my God. Poor Bobby's parents. What a memory. Thank you for sharing this.

Beck said...

Oh God, my heart - I remember so well those goofy adolescent weekends and how close we came so often to something very, very terrible happening. That poor boy.

Shannon said...

This was an incredible coming of age story.

Sad, tragic, funny, profound. The best and worst memories.

What a trip.

we_be_toys said...

You had the gift of storytelling all along - what a powerful and insightful journey back in time. Makes me want to go read my old journals now.

Jenifer said...

You really can weave a story, what a bittersweet and moving tale.

pgoodness said...

wow, that was so interesting, reading it in your original words as a young girl. you all did grow up a little quick that weekend. poor Bobby..and his parents.

Her Bad Mother said...

It's amazing how those soundtracks to our youths bring back the best and the worst for us.

Such a tragedy.

Craze said...

I'm almost at a loss for words. Reading about your experience took me back to my days of being torn between being a child and being an adult. It's amazing what strong emotions we have tied to that time in our life.

Jan said...

Wow, I'm finding it hard to comment. You're post is very moving. I've been lucky, in my youth no onw died, in my 20's only my Grandmother died, then my Grandfather. No one I knew that was my age died until I was in my 50's. Thanks for the post.

Dana said...

OMG. That's awful.
When I was in 9th grade I had a major, major un-reciprocated crush on a boy; he drowned in a lake and his was the first funeral I went to. Duran Duran's "Ordinary World" was just released and played incessantly on the radio. Sort of has the same meaning for me. I'd purposefully forgotten about it until reading this.

CamiKaos said...

thanks for sharing.

Moondance said...

What a amazing thing, to be able to read it all these years later from your teen point of view.

It struck me as stange that the councilors felt they needed to protect your innocence, but let the kids swim without supervision.

But the river proably wasn't regarded as dangerous, if no one had died before.

Very sad.


Wow. That was heartbreakingly beautiful. And tragic. I lost over a dozen friends in High School. It was madness. I think I recognized my mortality more as a teenager than an adult for that reason. Thank you for sharing this.

whoorl said...

What a heart-wrenching post - it's amazing how music can transport you back 5,10,20 years. What a tragedy.

Omaha Mama said...

I found myself reading as quickly as possible, due to your foreshadowing of tragedy. What a sad account, I've got tears in my eyes. I'm surprised at your writing. It's similar to how you write now and so mature for someone so young. I was not nearly so articulate as a teen, I don't think I'm that articulate now. You paint pictures with your words, I could see it all so clearly as I read. Well done.

Fairly Odd Mother said...

Very very sad about Bobby. Your journal is so vivid and real---I can almost imagine myself in that scene.

Izzy said...

I got totally lost in your story. The part about the boy that drowned kind of brought be back to reality.How terribly tragic. But a mesmerizing story.

Mommahbear. said...

That was amazing. And, heartbreaking. And, devastating.

And, beautiful.

Thank-you for sharing, OTJ. You're golden.

shannon said...

powerful story from such a young girl, thanks for sharing

carrie said...

Well done - every last little detail. It is so interesting to read the writing of our youth and see glimmers of ourselves now in them.

Turns out, you have always been a wonderful writer.

Sayre said...

I remember so many weekends like that... kids on the loose, hanging with Mother Nature but not realizing just how dangerous and powerful she was. Our days were spent at the beach - and none of us knew anything about undertows. We were lucky - we never lost anyone that way, but it really was dumb luck. Your story took me back to my own teenaged years.

Unfortunately, tragedy can make you grow up mighty fast.

QT said...

So interesting to read our accountings from that time, where as you so eloquently put it, we are straddling two worlds. Maybe as adults it would help us to be reminded of this more often as we deal with teens. It is easy to forget that struggle.

The sun, the water, the sand - it all sounded so familiar to many weekends of my youth. And those poor parents.

Great post, friend.

Maddy said...

How strange. I've just listened to a long programme on auditory processing - how we hear things and how it affects us, the associations we make and how hard wired they are.

Also my pre-teen [they're more advanced these days sadly] is on the cusp you so aptly described.

Best wishes
[nip over to collect little award]

Kevin Charnas said...

So much made me laugh hysterically:
" During this devotion, Mike and Mike were eating Nutter Butters and Pinwheel Cookies. I had pretzels. Pat and Steve had Fritos or something " and "They think we're whores!"

And of temporary the moment is...and how there are no guarantees...and how we should only cling to right now.

Mrs. Flinger said...

Oh, Jess. Your diary is written as a child who is turning the corner in to adult-hood. But the whole trip is such a turning point. What a touching memory. Now, I feel more akin to Bobby's parents then the 13 year olds on the trip. Amazing how that happens.

Kathy Likes Pink said...

A very moving story, told well. You should submit it for publication to a magazine.

This will be on my mind for the rest of the day.

lisawho? said...

I can't tellu how often I recall that weekend, ESPECIALLY whenever I hear a song from Tom's mix-tape. I smile whenever i hear one, despite the sad event that occurred on that trip I will always think of it as wonderful, perfect, and innocently sweet time in my life. You should write a screenplay about that trip.

Funny, I remember the counselor saying we were "horizontal" not prone. Yet, there's your journal to prove my memory wrong. (Maybe my husband is right about a lot more than i give him credit for remembering.)
Sorry about hyper-ventilating, 'oh my God! What a spaz!"

Lotta said...

I'm blown away at what a great writer and observer you were even then.

Plus the fact that you wrote "“Now he thinks we’re whores!" and "God Bless" in one entry pretty much cemented our friendship.

blue milk said...

What an extraordinary post.

mamatulip said...


Liza said...

Wow. Sweet and sad and touching.

Plus, Spring Green! The Wisconsin River! Echoes of my childhood there too. (Though my family was more fond of Devil's Lake & Long Lake.)

slackermommy said...

Oh my. Poor Bobby and his family. How tragic.

kerflop said...

I loved this:

"I was a girl with one foot planted, deep as bedrock, in childhood while the other foot desperately searched for a toe hold on the mystifying path to adulthood."

BlondeMomBlog (Jamie) said...

This is an amazing piece of writing. Just simply amazing.

I loved that song, too. I had The Cars Greatest Hits cassette tape.

Beautifully written...I think you should submit this as part of a published anthology!

Just Seeking said...

How tragic. And how horrible for you. I can't imagine.
What struck me too, as a parent, is how young you all were and doing something so potentially dangerous with seemingly not much adult intervention. I too, was allowed to do such things at such a young age. But would I let my kids do this alone today, at that young? no way. I have canoed the Wisconsin River and know first hand how dangerous it can be. We were all so much more trusting, free, something, back then than we are now. Oh my, what a memory. Thank you for sharing. (p.s. I was a freshman in 1981. We are very close in age.)

Mom101 said...

I'm glad I waited until I really had time to read this thoroughly. That's so vivid and intense, Jess. Wow. It's such an authentically teenage look at death and life and hormones and growing up that it brings back a million of my own memories. Strange what a song can do.

patrick said...

Your adult introduction saying, "it's a long narrative that ends in tragedy" speaks to the most astonishing thing about it. A mature writer simply could not tell the events in sequence like that without some awareness of how it's going to end. But to a fourteen-year-old, all of these things happened, and it's all big stuff, all worthy of its rightful place in the narrative. Death is shocking, but if you didn't know the person who died, it's not going to push things like skinny dipping and kissing out of a story.

I had cause recently to think about various people I've known who lost someone to suicide. I remembered a time when the pastor's son came to my house while his parents went to be with a family where the father had shot himself. We sat up speculating about how he'd done it and did he leave a note and so forth. We were about 14 or 15, and of course we understood the tragedy, but not in the way I can feel it in my throat when I think about it now. Teenagers certainly feel grief, but I don't reckon they connect to it on someone else's behalf like that.

Notwithstanding all that, there's no doubt you were already a gifted writer at 14.

The Chick said...

Just one more person to say you're a gifted writer. Gifted person. Altogether. I put a different spin on this meme, if you're interested but it looks lame next to yours.

Mike I said...

I now prefer Milano's over Nutter Butters. I have looked back at that event and remember having to complete the rest of the way on the river Sunday expecting every time I put the oar in the water Bobby was going to surface. I believe they found him a mile down river. We should have never had to canoe when he hadnt been found yet. As a parent of 2 girls 10 and 11 I would have blown a gasket when I found out the leaders had my kids continuing down the river with a drowned boy still missing.

The moral of the story I tell my girls is to keep your clothes on and stay in the canoe. Actually dont go canoeing. And definately keep your clothes on. 2 principles I live my life on. I really dont want to keep my clothes on but my wife insists on it. Actually most people I know feel the same way.

Jess it really is nice to reconnect with you. I often feel lucky that I had such strong friends like you and Cindy. The memories over the last 2 days have been overwhelming and 100% positive and funny. I will keep in touch and shrink up future comments but I needed to take up some space on my first entry...on any blog!! Later.

Rob P. said...

Jess, I want to thank-you for sharing this story, and the account of the weekend. Twenty-eight years ago today, Bobby Heinze left this world. I remember that day so vividly, as I was on that trip as well. I was an incoming freshman at Fremd High School, one year behind you in school. As I read your story, I recalled the memories of putting our canoes together, the hot sand, singing songs and sadly the helicopter searching for Bobby. I never could understand how the helicopter arrived so quickly, and think about this was 1982 - prior to cell phones. I remember Mike I’s foot bleeding from the motor and all of us watching in the hope that Bobby would be saved.
The hardest part of the weekend was that Sunday - the drudgery of canoeing that last five miles, driving the three hours home, all to see our parents in the church parking lot praying. It was especially hard for my parents as I learned only later in life they only knew a blond boy named Bobby drowned. You captured perfectly the innocence of youth and how we were all ill-prepared to deal with a death of a boy our age.
As a father of two boys who are 9 & 6, I am quite blessed. Twenty-eight years later I still think about that weekend. I pray for Bobby, and often think of his parents – as they are in my thoughts and prayers to this day. Thank you for sharing your journal.
Rob P.