Monday, March 17, 2008

Vindicated

I think it might be the first time that feeling vindicated has made me want to cry.

I knew something was wrong with The Mayor's hand and I was right.

The surgeon saw him again today (only because I made a nuisance of myself) and determined that breaking his arm also caused medial nerve damage affecting the normal use of his thumb and forefinger.

According to the surgeon, the pain in his hand probably feels "like hot sprinkles."

[Now where have I heard that before, Dr. Brainiac?]

The doctor prescribed occupational / physical therapy.

[I don't understand which one or the difference between them.]

We have to take The Mayor once or twice a week until...

The doctor couldn't say for sure.

It could be for three months. It could be for two years.

Meanwhile...

The Mayor woke up this morning with generic body-goop oozing from his right ear.

Apparently, his ear drum decided to spontaneously combust.

[Because he clearly doesn't have enough going on.]

Between the ear and the hand, The Mayor and I spent all day in doctor's offices, waiting rooms and pharmacies.

[With one fly-by visit to the dollar store for coloring books and crayons to serve as waiting room entertainment.]

We finally made it home with half an hour to spare before we were due to pick up The Rooster.

Without discussion we gravitated to the dining room table, the coloring books and the crayons.

In silence, we chose a picture and colored it together.

In it's own ironic and macabre way, the picture we colored is hilarious.




Hmmmm.... Do you think we were both a little worn out?

Maybe a bit stressed?

[What is a picture like this doing in a kid's coloring book anyway? All the other pictures are of ducks, dinosaurs and dolls.]

AAAGGGHHH!!!

good night's sleep *
good night's sleep * good night's sleep * good night's sleep

98 comments:

HRH said...

I am very frightened that the picture was in a coloring book. It is like directions to our children that they will eventually end up there because of us. Nice conditioning.

Mamma said...

Good for you for being persistent. Even though I think I said he was probably fine (sorry).

I hope his "sprinkles" go away soon.

And that picture?? Very weird.

flutter said...

Oh, damn.

FWIW, physical therapy is immensely helpful.

Damn that ear!! Poor kid

kristenspina said...

Oh no! I hoped it wouldn't be so. I hope the therapy helps--OT, PT or both. Hang in there!! And keep us posted.

Our Crooked Tree said...

Mom's just know. It is better to be safe than sorry in the end and I am glad you figured things out and are able to take care of it. The pic is weird; are you sure it wasn't in the self hlpe aisle?:)

Moondance said...

I am so glad you didn't let go of it; that you got the doctor to look closer. PT and OT will make the difference between real healing and just mending the bone.

Sarah said...

That is really a creepy picture.

So glad you got some real answers.

Little Monkies said...

I don't know whether to laugh or cry.
XOX.

mamatulip said...

Of course you were right.

So glad you have an answer...I hope you begin to see the effects of the O/PT very soon.

That picture is whack. It cracks me up that it was in there among the ducks and dolls.

Fingers crossed for a *good night's sleep*.

Faerie Mom said...

I am so glad you were persistant and finally found out what was up with this hand! Poor baby with the ear.... and poor mommy. I hope you get some good sleep!

ALM said...

Oh wow.. but at least now you know what's going on... What a long horrible day, though.

BTW - OT will teach him how to use the hand & PT will strengthen the muscles...

(Not quite sure WHAT to say about that picture....)

Sister Honey Bunch said...

OK, I obviously don't even know you but one of your last posts just made my stomach hurt feeling your worry.

I am so so so glad you finally know what's going on. That's half the battle, hey?

And that picture? Weird.

LaskiGal said...

Mother's intuition truly works--good to know. I'm so sorry about what that poor little guy has to go through. Big bummer . .. but good for you for being persistent.

I have to say, that pic in the coloring book is a little odd . . . I'm with hrh.

Loralee Choate said...

I had both when I was injured and in school. PT was general strengthening and exercises, etc. my OP was more motor skills, etc. I imagine much of his OT will be things like using scissors, writing, etc.

At least mine was.

I am really sorry he is going through so much. Poor guy. (And poor mom!)
My best thoughts are with you.

Candygirlflies said...

What a Mom!! With-a-captial-M!!

You followed your gut instinct... and you were absolutely right.

NOW... About that ear... Oh, the sleeplessness!! Poor boy, and poor you.

Let the healing begin!!!

xo CGF

Denguy said...

Lovely colouring job--I particularly like the magenta carpet.

Have a good night's sleep.

April said...

Ugh, what a day! I hope he's well very, very soon. And if not...well, you may want to take a trip to that Dr. Sue's office!

Omaha Mama said...

I think OT is for fine motor and PT is for gross motor. So probably occupational therapy? Stay on it, stay loud and noisy. If I've learned anything in my 12 yrs of social work and teaching, it's that the annoying parents get the very best services. Be THAT mom. Seriously.

That picture is a bit creepy. But also fate. Maybe it was therapeutic for you.

Wishing you sweet dreams. ~OM

witchypoo said...

I hope Dr. Sue doesn't mean legal issues. I'm glad you kept hammering until you were heard.

Jen said...

Of course you were right about his arm! Doctors need to learn to listen to moms a little better.

If four years worth of various therapy with my son has taught me one thing it's this: OT = fine motor and PT = gross motor. And it can do wonders a very small amount of time. I'm glad the mayor is going to be getting some help for his arm soon. Poor little guy.

Golightly said...

Yeah! I'm glad you went back and got that opinion! You were SO right.

And I see that ALM & Omaha Mama gave you the differences between OT & PT - sounds from your experiences he needs both.

That coloring book... that's why it's in the dollar store! LOL.

Hope he heals QUICKLY.

jen said...

oh Jess. I've been worried about him, wondering about what you've been saying and thinking too that something wasn't right. i am so sorry for you both.

the mama bird diaries said...

Oh I'm sorry about your little boy. Healing vibes your way!

That picture is a bit odd.

liv said...

oh, this is not the kind of right you want to be, mom. (hugs) to both of you.

(feel free to email me about OT/PT)

jakelliesmom said...

I swear I read something in the last few weeks about children's books lacking working mothers as role models - and there you found it at the $1 store.

Hugs to you, and wishing you the years ahead to be able to look at this tiny (awful) moment in his history and not the very unpleasant present.

Biddy said...

are you sure you didn't get the coloring books at the psych ward!? haha

physical therapy is more like exercise. it is used to regain momentum/movement of injured body parts (like, a broken arm...he might need physical therapy to regain full motion of his shoulder). occupational therapy is "real life" situations...things he does everyday (coloring, brushin his teeth, etc). they will teach him ways to do this so it doesn't hurt as bad...

sorry for the long comment. we had to learn all of that in massage therapy school

JCK said...

In a weird way it must be a relief to know that something really was wrong.

Very odd picture in a coloring book. Maybe it was a coloring book for whacked out moms who have been dealing with doctor denials?

Sadie said...

It was most likely occupational therapy (they usually tend more to the sensory end of it)...and most OT's throw in some PT as needed.

But good for you for being persistent!! So sorry the doc couldn't see it sooner!! Sometimes parents really DO know best (oh wait...that's MOST times)

Deb said...

Hey... you have an answer. That's a start. I'm glad they figured it out. On the other hand, figuring out that warped comic book is going to take a WHOLE other kind of expert.

Sugarplum's Mom said...

Oh Jess... I'm so glad you got an answer instead of just them saying everything is fine and he's just shy about it. I'm so sorry about his ear.. I hope his sprinkles go away and his ear feels better soon.

Rachel said...

Poor Mayor. May his hand heal well, and quickly. Sending good thoughts/ prayers your way.

Mama DB said...

Girl, that's dollar store coloring there!

I'm happy that you are getting answers. So frustrating to read of your (Mayor's) ordeal, I can only imagine what it is to live it.

I just got a sample one of these from a friend of mine: Busy Kits. Not as fun (read "odd and a little frightening")as the coloring book you found but still occupying.

Kelley said...

Oh my gawd. I just spurted the keyboard. That has to be the funniest picture I have seen in ages. Goes to show how normal it is now to 'go to the therapist'

Sad really.

Glad to hear you listened to your mumma bear. But it totally sucks that you were right.

Jenny, the Bloggess said...

I've had "hot sprinkles" ever since the dog attack. It's been almost 5 months and it's just now starting to pass.

Time heals everything except the shit that's bad enough to need therapy, obviously.

Just The Three of Us Ladies said...

There's is something huge to be said for a mother's intuition! Wow, what a day. I hope the therapy fixes him up like new. I wondered too "what is that picture doing in a coloring book?".

kristen said...

right on mama! i'm glad you're vindicated - glad that you were finally heard, even if you had to wedge your way in.

physical and occupational therapy work wonders, but if you're not getting the results, acupuncuture is really wonderful for nerve damage. of course there's the whole getting a little kid to sit through being poked (the needles aren't retained in kids, you put it in and then it's out), but i thought i'd put it out there just in case.

i'm glad you got your answers. xo

Cat, Galloping said...

UGH, i'm so sorry for all the pain the Mayor has had to endure. It must be excruciating to watch. You can be proud that you're such an attentive mom who gets her son what he needs, though.

3carnations said...

I'm so sorry for the nerve damage but glad that you went with your gut and persisted. Poor little guy. At least now he is on his way to recovery.

nell said...

I'm sorry you were right, I hope the therapy helps quickly.

jeanie said...

Just remember - ask if washing windows will be one of his exercises!

That is one weird picture - but tell me, did he do all that colouring?

Pendullum said...

Only you and your brood could find such a page on a colouring book....
That pink crayola dress from Nashville keeps dancing through my head as you talked about colouring with the Mayor...
Hope it is a new day, and his ear is better and the road to his hand's recovery is brisk.

Circus Kelli said...

I am SO glad the doctor listened, and I am SO sorry The Mayor (and you) are having such a hard time lately.

I wondered why that picture was in a kid's coloring book, too.

((Hugs))

we_be_toys said...

That is a weird picture for a kids' coloring book, but you know the Dollar Store - that stuff all falls off the back of a truck, so it tends to be odd.

So glad you took the Mayor back for another consult, and even gladder that they were able to figure it out. Crossing my fingers for a quick recovery with his poor little arm and hand.

MamaCarter said...

Vindication indeed. Relieved to know that relief for your little guy is on the horizon.

Don Mills Diva said...

Oh the poor thing - what else can happen?

What a weird picture! Kinda disturbing.

Catizhere said...

Ah, the spontaneous combustion of eardrums. Maggie had the flu last week & immediately followed that with an ear infection. She calls it "Ear Juice" :::yuck:::

That picture? A little scary.


Good nights sleep, indeed.

cce said...

Yikes, he's having his lion's share this week which should mean, if the fates are listening and attentive and doing their damn job, that next week should be a cake walk.

Lotta said...

Oh hon! I'm so glad you pushed. Still think about going to a neuro ok?

Big love
Lotta

Magpie said...

That is one weird picture for a coloring book.

Hoping the hand gets better soon.

Fairly Odd Mother said...

YOU WERE RIGHT!!! Mothers' Instincts are usually right on target. Good for you.

not-so suburban momma said...

This just really pisses me off-the lack of credibility assigned to kids from the point of view of doctors and the entire medical business in general. The mayor KNEW something was wrong all along but doctors are so often condescending and smug. Way to go momma-I hope you bore holes into that doctor with your gaze.

the picture is effing hilarious-I'm convinced the person who designed it is working out some issues...

Ann M. said...

I am so glad that it is finally figured out--Mayor can start feeling better and you probably feel less crazy and paranoid.

I've been in PT for all kinds of things, and sometimes it seriously hurt, but it did help.

What an odd picture to put in a children's book.

Annie said...

Nothing, nothing, beats a mamma's instinct.

Queen of Shake-Shake said...

Poor Mayor! I'm glad you listened to your gut and insisted he be seen again. Here's hoping the OT works quickly...kids can heal so fast.

And what is with that coloring page? Odd.

MamaWise said...

I have to correct some previous commenters. I am a PT and we do BOTH gross and fine motor work. Basically physical therapy is for strengthening, coordination, and functional activities. Occupational therapy is for activities of daily living, such as dressing, eating, grooming, bathing, etc.

Just thought I would let you know the difference. The two fields overlap a lot, but they complement each other nicely.

Good luck with the therapy! It really will make a big difference.

Above Average Joe said...

Never mess with a mother's intuition.

And way to stay in between the lines!

Lisa said...

Oh, so sorry about your sweetie. He's lucky to have a persistent (and book-coloring) mom to spend the day with.

Emily N said...

That sucks. Poor Mayor. Just goes to show that the medical community is like the rest of the world - you gotta be a squeaky wheel. Your gut told you that something was not right and the gut don't lie! Well at least he's on the path to full recovery now.

Ally said...

Good work being the squeaky wheel for the Mayor. Who else is gonna?

The coloring book picture... what the heck?

Mrs. Schmitty said...

Mom's always have a sense when something isn't right with our kids. You were so right to follow your instincts!

Jen M. said...

A TERAPY picture? What's next, Girl Scouts selling Prozac cookies??

My prayers of healing and happiness being sent your way.

JaniceNW said...

Moms always know. I'm so glad you persisted! Score a good point for the moms!!

Janet said...

I think the diploma on the colouring book therapist's wall says, "University of Irony."

I'm glad the medical community has finally caught up with your instincts.

PunditMom said...

Maternal instinct is everything. OK, almost everything. And yes, that picture is a little creepy for a kids coloring book!

Redneck Mommy said...

Good for you and your spidey senses, momma!

Here is to the Mayor and his OT sessions healing him quickly.

And hopefully he will enjoy the OT sessions too. That will help.

Lisa Milton said...

Well, of course I'm not happy about the nerve damage and the therapy ahead, but I am thankful you have some answers.

Poor pooky. Nerve pain is a bitch.

Hope you got some sleep, house of Joy.

ox

Jenifer said...

I am so glad you have an explanation...not glad it means there was something wrong though.

That colouring picture is like some kind of joke on the colouring book assembly line I suppose...

kittenpie said...

Oh dear. I am sorry you were right, but glad you listened to your mama gut. Hopefully it will sort itself out quickly wtih the right therapy.

Day Dreamer said...

That picture was actually funny to me. It should have been in my coloring books as a child!!

I love that you were that much of a pain-in-the-butt-patients-mother and persisted until he was seen.

Hope the physical therapy works.

(sometimes, there's sooo many comments here that I fear leaving one will not be seen....but I don't want to stop by and not say I'm reading and feeling your words!)

Tami W. said...

Mothers should never doubt their instincts. I'm so glad you took the Mayor back to the doctor. I only wish that after the diagnosis you would have jumped up and said, "IN YOUR FACE MR. COLLEGE EDUCATED PHYSICIAN!"

Rosie said...

70 comments? Wow! The picture mad me laugh. It sounds like good news from the doctor if it means The Major's arm will improve with physio. Poor little thing.

kevin said...

Where is the vodka tonic?

Laura said...

Glad you have answers...so glad you persisted and trusted your instincts.

Sending healing vibes.

Poor little guy...HUGS

Life As I Know It said...

What IS a picture like that doing in a kid's coloring book? That's pretty funny.
Hoping for a speedy recovery for the little guy.

KC said...

I'm glad he's got a diagnosis and going for therapy. But, jeez about the ear goo. (I think this means there won't be any other issues for a loooong time.)

Chicky Chicky Baby said...

Baby's first coloring book about therapy?

Hope the sprinkles go away soon!

motherbumper said...

Your persistence and listening to that intuition was so dead on. Good job Mom.

And you both stayed inside the lines which is very important.

Bon said...

poor sweet boy.

and the colouring book cracked me up. :)

Sarcastic Mom (aka Lotus) said...

Well, I'm (still) oh so very sorry that The Mayor's hand is damaged, but I am oh so very glad he'll finally have some help for it.

And I'm stuck with being REALLY bothered about where the bottom half of the man's body is (the one lying on the couch).

deb said...

It's not good that he has something wrong with his hand, but good that you know what is wrong with his hand now and that it can be treated.

As for the coloring book. Very bizarre.

Queen of the Mayhem said...

I guess you DO have a lot going on!

Good for you for staying on that surgeon! Momma's intuition cannot be surpassed...even by modern medicine!

Here's praying for peace for BOTH of our homes...SOON!

I hope you get that sleep you deserve!

LceeL said...

Good night's sleep, Princess.

Modern Mami said...

That is pretty scary that it's in a coloring book. I hope the therapy helps him out and that he starts to feel all around well soon.

Amy U. said...

Ah yes, Dr. Wood from the University of Ohio...

Assertagirl

Christina said...

Poor guy. Mama's intuition is always right, although it doesn't make you feel any better about the situation right now.

The OT/PT will help a lot. He may even like it, since they often try to make it fun for kids.

Worker Mommy said...

Aah, poor Mayor!

I'm glad you stuck to your guns though. It must have taken everything you had not to go to the doctor and say "I told you so!!!"

Maggie said...

You did a good job. Its tough being a mom. And rest is a definite must after a day like that. I hope you got some.

Beck said...

Poor little man.

urban-urchin said...

I'm so sorry the Mayor is having such a rough go of things lately. Poor kid, poor House of Joy. If there is anything I can do let me know.

The picture's location is the funniest thing about it.

creative-type dad said...

That looks like the kind of picture my therapist makes me color

Major Bedhead said...

I hate that you were right, but I'm glad that something's being done for The Mayor. That poor kid needs to catch a break.

Very weird picture, but maybe there are that many children in therapy now that someone felt the need to include it....

Rapunzel said...

Whoa, that picture is scary! What the heck?!

Hope the Mayor is feeling better, poor little dear.

Value wIT said...

OT is witchcraft, I think. My son spent some time before he was 17 months and not walking at the OT's office swinging and crawling on balls. Maybe it worked because he started walking and hasn't stopped since. Seemed silly, but again, it worked. Consider it really good babysitting.

Damselfly said...

What is a picture doing like that in a coloring book, is exactly what I was going to say! Weird.... I hope the Mayor gets better. His maladies must be over now, right? Because bad things come in threes (arm, hand, ear)?

Lisa said...

Its a good thing you were persistent! Hope he starts feeling good very very soon.

The End of Motherhood? said...

You might want to chuck the coloring book and ask him to draw some pictures of when he hurt his arm...Telling the whole story in pictures really helps them process the trauma...Hope you are all sleeping more soundly.

Paige said...

I'm glad you got answers. Based on what you said about his pain, I had feared it would be nerve damage. It's the same pain I feel in my low back from time to time.

For what little it's worth, physical therapy does help. It just takes time.

Poor Mayor.

Poor Mama.

Kyla said...

See, this is what I miss when I don't blog for a week! I'm glad you linked back to this today! Glad the surgeon listened to you. Mommies tend to know best.