Thursday, May 15, 2008

At Home with Ram Dass

K was moving to a town called Somewhere Colder.

Have you heard of it?

[It's north of here.]

For all thirteen years that I've known him, he's been on the verge of moving there.

[Or to Spain.]

Because of his imminent move, he has always been hesitant to commit to this place or to invest in anything close to permanence.

Build an addition on our house?

Perish. The. Thought.

Why would we build an addition when we are moments away from The Big Move?

[Not THIS kind of big move, toilet head.]

Anyway, moves (and movements) aside, K has all of a sudden decided to live here now.

It's his new motto.

Live here, now.

He's decided to treat this town like home.

He's been scheduling appointments with a realtor in order to find what he calls "our last house," the one we'll stay in until the end of this story.

"I only have one move left in me," he says.

Friends raise their eyebrows skeptically.

"Why now? What about the economy? Surely you don't want to get involved in the housing market now?!" they say.

I shake my head and smile.

K is a fussy home buyer and he makes decisions about as rapidly as
plate tectonics shift continents.

We looked at sixty five houses before we made an offer on the one we own.

SIXTY. FIVE. HOUSES.

This time, I'm not looking.

"When you find one you like enough to buy, let me know," I told him.

New house or not, I'm glad he finally lives here... in this town... with us.

It's good to be home.

29 comments:

Sayre said...

We had a similar issue when we moved to town from the boonies. It took my husband a while to accept that we lived HERE and not there. I got to do the house-picking and negotiating, but his reluctance in accepting the whole thing (even though he knew it had to be done) was frustrating. He's not 100% on board yet, but I think we're 80% of the way there.

Assertagirl said...

We're constantly looking around at the homes for sale around here, but we aren't planning to move for years. Until we outgrow this home.

"Live here, now."

I like it.

apathy lounge said...

65? 65?????


Just reading this makes me want to lie down and take a nap. Or...just drink.

Backpacking Dad said...

I haven't put up any pictures or done anything permanent to our apartment because it's just a temporary residence until we move into someplace better.

We've lived in this apartment for two years now.

With bare walls and floor lamps.

Karly said...

SIXTY FIVE HOUSES? Wow. I would have killed him. ;) I am, however, glad that K has decided to live with y'all.

Jenifer said...

I would have gone insane looking at 65 houses. Glad you decided to stay.

seekingservant said...

I think you should buy a "Welcome Home" mat for K to place at the front door. We found our "we're gonna grown old in this house" 19 years ago. of course, that could always change, but we own it, and the roots are very deep. Glad to hear you're all together now. Peace

flutter said...

Toilet head.

You are hysterical

Above Average Joe said...

I have lived in the same town for my whole life. I have only moved 3 times. My last move was less than a half mile and it took us over a year to settle on this house.

Kinda explains why I wasnt going to be the one to move out, huh?

Emily said...

I totally identify with K.

I am only passing through this town we live in...for the past 7 years. I may be moving at a glacial pace, but I have other places to go, and much more charming houses to leave my mark on. I can't wait to BE HOME! (Though, I'm not at all sure where that is.)

pianomomsicle said...

This post made me laugh and laugh. i, also, am only passing through, as we're in our first house and it's a townhouse and don't get me started on townhouses.

i'm glad K has decided to stay with you. i couldn't have dealt with 65 houses. Wow. That's more perfectionist than my hubs!

Kelly said...

We've been living in limbo also for the past 1 1/2 years. And it looks like it's going to be another year or so. Or so...or so...or so..."Or So" is making me crazy! Perhaps I should live here now too.

Moobs said...

P's family has this concept they call the "forever house" which I think is what K is looking for. IT caught me by the heart when I heard it because what it says to me is that rather than twitchily looking to the horizon in the hope that that is where happiness will be found it means resolving to make happiness happen.

Kevin Charnas said...

This sounds VERY familiar.

And SIXTYFIVE???

I'd be done. And K would have no hair.

Rusti said...

wow. sixty five houses. I'm in shock. we're discussing buying some property that has recently come up for sale, and building within a few years... but we're ready to put our house back on the market NOW (who knows how long it will take to sell it!) and if we end up selling we'll have to find an apartment or house to rent for awhile... one that accepts cats. and dogs. and us. the recent new development in our lives could cause some more worry on that front as well... (check me out for news!) so... whatever happens, I hope K has lots of fun looking at millions of houses, and that you enjoy looking at the one he decides y'all want :) Good luck!

Cassey said...

We look at house all the time. It's a officially a hobby now.

Mimi aka pz5wjj said...

Well, welcome to town!

Sit down, take your coat off and stay a while.

Damselfly said...

Ah, house hunting. I still think of some songs from the mid-90s as our "house hunting songs," so many hours did we drive and look. :)

Wendy said...

I know, after living in 5 places in 5 years, you get a certain "expectation" of traveling light, not accumulating, considering what place will be next, assuming this place is short-term. Now, I've learned a) marrying a pack rat is a bad idea for this lifestyle, b) marrying someone who likes your house better than you do, also a bad idea....oh well. Then you give in and relax about it.

All Adither said...

We looked at about 50 houses before we bought ours here in Seattle. And moving? It blows. It blows hard. Glad you can be all together as a family now.

WILLIAM said...

I know the feeling of "one more move in me."

Kelley said...

MPS couldn't care less where he lives. Cardboard box with wireless internet and he would be happy.

I am the picky one. And I would totally look at 65 houses and then find the right one to completely gut and redo.

Bogart in P Towne said...

The struggle I am having...put down roots in a town I have no intention of staying in or try to get plugged in knowing that anytime in the next 3 months - 4 years I could head back to San Diego...

I think getting plugged in is probably better, but very hard to do.

Schmutzie said...

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Stepping over the Junk said...

I've moved 6 times in the last 10 years. I have been in this place for 2 1/2 and hope to never move again. AND it's paid off!

The Sour Kraut said...

I wish The Swede would live in our new house. Mentally, he's still back at our old house near all of our friends. He hasn't accepted this new place yet and will occasionally talk about going back. Ugh.

Ruth Dynamite said...

I get it. I think it takes awhile to settle into the reality that exists, not the reality you envisioned in your head.

Glad the picture's all coming together.

Jo Beaufoix said...

I hope he finds something fabulous for you. Just catching up. I love the little Diva in the last post, and your Grandma's way of waking you was wonderful.

Grim Reality Girl said...

I told my husband we are never moving again... I'm sorry a move might be on the horizon for you... moving is my version of hell. 65 houses.... maybe K is related to me?? So sorry!