Saturday, October 30, 2010

Transparency & Transition

Last winter, I took a job in social media and I find that after I spend all day at work blogging, tweeting and posting to Facebook, I'm spent.

I really miss the way that regularly blogging here offered me a chance to reflect, even in small ways, on what was happening in my life and how I felt about it.

Since going back to work full time, I sometimes find that I'm not sure what I think or how I feel about anything because there's no time to stop and consider.

Life is one long task list it often seems.

Yesterday I found out I'll be speaking at the Mom 2.0 summit to be held in New Orleans from February, 14-16.

I'm super excited to be going because I know I'll love seeing some of my favorite bloggers and meeting new ones.

When I saw the announcement though, it was the first time that I have seen my professional blog linked to my personal one.

I'm not sure how I feel about that.

I haven't taken down any posts here, but this new job in social media has forced my once (at least semi-private) identity to merge with my professional identity.

I don't mind, per se.

I mean, I stand behind the stories I've told here. I've been honest, I've been myself.

I've been transparent.

I'm not sure I'm used to being so completely transparent in a work context.

That's one thing I'd like to explore with friends at Mom 2.0.

More and more of us are translating our blogging experience into new career opportunities.

The blogging community helped me write through the process of becoming a mother.

This community was invaluable to me in that long path to integrating the idea of myself as a mother with the idea I had of myself before I became one.

I'm hoping that I'll write more, and that we can talk more, about what it means to be online personally and professionally at the same time.


(Oh, and I probably have to talk about volunteerism too, because that is what I've always been all about professionally and now everything's all mixed up and jumbled together.)

So here we go...


Joie said...

Hell yes, I'm interested!

Seriously, I am an Episcopal priest and did shut down my blog years ago when I no longer had time for it. Really, though, it was only for far-away family members to keep up with our newborn in pictures and stories. However, Facebook is another issue altogether. Do I accept parishioners as friends? Well, some are people I really want to have as a FB friend and others are not. I lost a family because one of my status updates was "Going door to door for Obama." Well, maybe I didn't really want them in my parish anyway.....I have always tried to live transparently but sometimes I need to blow off steam in ways that parishioners (clients) should not see. FB has been great for many of my colleagues and I to banter and discuss serious issues and means that what was once a very isolating job is less isolating through social networking.

Joie said...

BTW: glad to see you back here!

Jonathan said...

Excellent post - and a subject lots of people are having to thing about.

I'm going to share this with a good friend, who is probably wrestling with the same concerns.

She may even be at the Mom2 conference.

annie w. said...

have missed you all very much. glad to hear you are ok..just super busy. hugs

Pam said...

This is the first year I've decided to put my blogs on my LinkedIn profile - and leave them there.

I've been outed at work. I wasn't as appalled as I thought I would be - and I don't care as much as I thought I would.

So I guess we both get to walk around without sunglasses on, huh?

Look forward to meeting you at Mom2Summit!

Margaret said...

Oh, yes, the worlds colliding. I too do not wish to have everything I write read by everyone in my professional life. It's like this: They know I wear a bathing suit to the beach, but I don't want to show up to a work related function in it. I stand behind what I write, but don't necessarily want colleagues interacting with me about some of that stuff.

Jenifer said...

It was nice to see you come up in the reader! Glad you are well and by the sounds of it busy with work that you love. I think your writing is honest and passionate and hysterically funny and anyone would be lucky to have a glimpse of the Family Joy.

Schmutzie said...

I put my blog on my resume for the job I have now a year ago, and it's been interesting being so out about it.

I wish I could hear you speak, but I'm not going. Boo.

Best of luck!

Virtualsprite said...

This is something I struggle with on an almost daily basis. As a journalist, I'm writing constantly and updating Facebook for work. I keep a personal page on Facebook, too, and I'm very careful about what I put up there. I'm much more careful about my blog, too, since everything I have is all linked together. Plus, I live in a pretty small town and even if I didn't link it together, people put two and two together and find me anyway. It's hard to balance, though, because there are things I'd like to blog about but then I think about what people will think, etc. It's tough to balance and I wish I could be at Mom 2.0!

John Ross said...

Oh boy! Oh the Joy!

Day-um!(Stole that from you)

Many of us have watched you, with some concern for you & for ourselves, as you have been increasingly caught up in the professional world & demands reflected in you obviously work related posts on twitter.

yes, that is important stuff & we're glad you're doing that.

But-it has, as you've alluded to, left little time for the you we have come to know & care for here on Oh The Joys.

Yup, transparency necessary for truth-in-writing, is not always
comfortable(or safe)in the land of making a living.

Yup. You are gonna have to learn to integrate those two parts of you, and issues of disclosure, in some way that allows for growth and balance in both.

And when you figure that out let me know how.

In meantime, we'll be watching & waiting with baited breath to read of your adventures, or misadventures, in this, the Best of All Possible Worlds(stole that from Voltaire)

JoeinVegas said...

Missed you, hope you can set aside time to reflect

Magpie said...

Yes. It's a tricky thing to navigate.

Crazy Computer Dad said...

The worlds of our professional lives and our personal lives often overlap with or without blogging. We tend to talk about politics at work, or things we did over the weekend. In some cases, coworkers can become good friends or even lifelong friends. While my blog is deeply personal to me, I know that if someone went looking hard enough, they could trace it back to me. I've always known that and have always tried ensure that if my coworkers found it, they wouldn't see anything there that is different from who I am at work. If I have to change who I am at work so much that I don't want people there to ever see my blog, then I am in the wrong job and I need to leave anyway.

We have seen over the past couple of years that words are extremely powerful and can be very devastating. If you are going to write it, then you should be prepared to be accountable and take responsibility for the outcome. Too many have abused their online pseudo-anonymity and caused real and sometime irreversible harm to real people. I have crossed this line a few times and I know how easy it is to do. Certainly doesn't apply here, but when discussing personal blogs it has to be said because so many use their personal space to perpetuate so many awful and untrue things. Well, some professionals do too...

The lines are more blurred when your career puts you out into public view and then your personal writings get associated with that. It is one thing to not have the time because of your job, but another when what you do professionally is linked to your personal and recreational life.

I feel for you in this. I know some people who have almost completely merged their professional and personal lives, but if that isn't the way you want to go, maybe you can ask them (probably too late) to not publish/associate your personal blog with your professional roles?

Kristine said...

In the last year my blog life has merged with my personal life more than I ever intended. It's taken some time to get used to it. And it has changed how I write in some ways. Some people that I work with know about my blog, some of them read it.

I don't necessarily have secrets on my blog, but now that it is out there, I can't write about my crazy mother as much, or bitch about my asshole brother. It is limiting at times.

Congrats on your job! And so happy to have you back here!

Kellyology said...

This is a discussion I would really enjoy listening to.